Registries

BrennanRigle · December 2012

Hey girls! Just wondering if you have given any thought to when you will start your registries. We are planning on doing my shower in July/August and I wasn't planning on doing the registry until March/April but my mom kinda freaked me out last night. She told me I should start them sooner because it takes some time to finalize them. Any thoughts would be appreciated!! Thanks!

vgarlin · December 2012

Over the weekend, I completed our registries at Walmart and Target online. The only problem was the majority of the Target items were only available online. I will make changes and updates to my registries as the time gets closer. I may cancel the target account and make one at JCP or Sears instead. We are going on a cruise for our honeymoon and there is also a way for guests to allocate gifts while we are on the cruise.

shannie11 · December 2012

We are also waiting until at least April. I am planning on registering at Macys and BBB. We are also going on a cruise. I am undecided yet if I should include this in the registry. It is just that my mom is buying us the one excursion I really want to go on. Everything else including our alcohol will be included.

vgarlin · December 2012

Which cruise are you going on?

Did you look at all of the options that guests can buy?

shannie11 · January 2013

We are going on a carnival cruise. On our ship the first day we can sign up for unlimited beverages up to 15 for 50 dollars a day each . I looked at what people could buy. I saw some towels, wine glasses, beach stuff etc. . i also saw people can pay for a bottle of wine with dinner or if you go to a nice restaurant. i plan on surprising my fianc with some beers, champagne and other treats when we arrive. What are you picking from your list ?

vgarlin · January 2013

We are going on a carnival cruise,too! My in-laws are paying for the honeymoon, so I'm not sure of the details yet. I think we will end up doing 5 days to the Bahamas. I think for the honeymoon registry we might include one excursion, one couples massage, and chocolates/flowers.

Stina51286 · January 2013

We will be registering in May or June, maybe a month earlier depending on when my girls plan my shower for. If you register too early like snippet said, the items may be gone by the time people start buying for your shower. (I honestly buy the night before or the day of).

With regards to the cruise, leave that information out. It is tacky to put that in there and basically ask people to pay for your honeymoon. If someone asks your plans about your honeymoon, fine tell them, they may give you cash instead of a gift.

dewingedpixie · January 2013

I think I'm going to do Amazon, and Disney Honeymoon Registry. Honestly other than a Kitchenaid we really dont need anything for the house. I'm considering not registering at all. We want to purchase a home 12-18 months after the wedding. I'd rather have checks to us or to charity.

libby18bell · January 2013

We were asked by a few people where we were registered at for Christmas present ideas, which confused me since we didn't exchange with one of the people who asked but we got ours all taken care of. If you do Bed Bath and Beyond, they send you notices of when items get discontinued so no issues there. We actually started our registry when we had 3 hours to kill between a friend's wedding and reception so we just stopped at the store. We also didn't register for anything too trendy, most of our stuff is timeless and has been around for a while. We were just given the heads up by the stores that from January til April the wedding sections at the stores gets packed with people registery and since you somewhat need to be in the store to actually start it we didn't see a problem with just getting it taken care of, and can do the updates online.

Ro041 · January 2013

There is a consistent discussion on the Registering and Gifts board about whether honeymoon registries are bad etiquitte. Here is the link to the main post on the topic:

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_thinking-of-honeymoon-registry-2

After reading a lot about honeymoon registries on R&G, I agree with Stina that they are tacky. I had initially started one since FI and I are planning on going to Disney World on our honeymoon. But, if you look closely at their registry, they have you "pick out" items for your honeymoon, and then cut you a check for the cost of the "item" while keeping a portion of the money as a transaction fee. They seem to be a cash grab for Disney and a disguised request for money. But hey, some people think they are not tacky. I went to a wedding recently that had one of these registries, and I chose not to buy off of it because I knew what really was (they got married in August and still haven't gone on their honeymoon - Where did that money go? What about Uncle Fred who bought you that "horseback ride"?).

I tend to be of the thinking that if you have a small registry (20ish items), people will get the hint that you don't need a lot of housewares, and will be more likely to just give you money. However, we must keep in mind that as the receiver of a gift, we are not privileged to direct people into purchasing the gift of our choosing, or to just give us money because it's more convenient.

dewingedpixie · January 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2013-weddings_registries?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:1925524f-fa8b-432f-a7b5-be486ce756efDiscussion:2b3ceef2-534c-495a-b4de-6ab8a374244cPost:13d51531-f168-4e05-aa33-04eb4167c47f">Re: Registries</a>:
[QUOTE] I tend to be of the thinking that if you have a small registry (20ish items), people will get the hint that you don't need a lot of housewares, and will be more likely to just give you money. However, we must keep in mind that as the receiver of a gift, we are not privileged to direct people into purchasing the gift of our choosing, or to just give us money because it's more convenient.
Posted by Rochelle041[/QUOTE]

I agree with this on one level, on another I think a gift that isnt wanted or useable just shouldnt be given. We may not even do a registry. Our wedding for us isnt a situation where we really want gifts. If someone asks we may just simply state we have everything we need for our home, but we are currently saving towards a down payment. We do not expect gifts but if you still want to give please consider helping us towards owning our own home. Dunno I just dont see a point in registering for things I dont need that will clutter my house, especially when I really dont want anything.

vgarlin · January 2013

I have to disagree with it being tacky. I'm sure that some people on here don't like it, but I would rather get something that I want and that will be used versus a ton of things for a house. I know our families, and I know that they would rather get us something for the honeymoon. Tons of people use the cruise honeymoon registries. Just because it's not something that you like doesn't make it tacky.

[Deleted User] · January 2013

We started our registry during Thanksgiving weekend. Since we actually had some time together, we wanted to get it started while we were both looking at the same computer. We haven't gone to any stores, and are using giftregistry360 for our registry, so we don't accidentally add multiples of things (like toasters!). Most of our guests are OOTs, so I thought having all of our registry in one place would make it a heck of a lot easier on them. (Plus this way we're able to register for things on Amazon, The Home Depot, Target, etc etc etc)

It's definitely still a work in progress, though. I want to have it pretty much completed (before any updates because of items availability or what not) by the time we send out the STDs.

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