background:
Well, me and my fiancé are both military and have no chance of being stationed at the same base due to our careers. We both accepted this when he proposed and knew it would be a hard relationship but knew it to be worth it. I plan on going career and he owes at least five years and has thoughts of career as well. His career has an especially high deployment rate, too.
Frustration:
I know it shouldn't bother me, but I'm getting it from more than one person so I figured I would ask for input. People keep doubting as to what kind of marriage we could have never living together. I've gotten suggestions that we should wait a few more years, to emphases that he couldn't be the one for me. I've even been used as an example for "worst case" of military separation to make a new military spouse feel better about separation anxiety.
I my friends are just trying to watch out for me; I think they are worried about what a strained commitment will do to me.
I do love him, though its hard to counter all their arguments with just my emotion.
Our careers/dreams are part of who we are and why we love each other- thats why it is worth it to us.