"CP" time (hate to feed into the stereotype)

rowenac82 · March 2012

I got to thinking last night and wondered if any of you ladies are thinking along the same lines. Both my ceremony and reception are at the same venue, therefore timing and punctuality is important. Are any of you considering puting a "fake" start time on your invite, just so people will be on time. My ceremony is scheduled for 5pm and I am considering putting 4:30pm. We have the venue from 3pm. Thoughts? Know of times this has been done?

MissusD1116 · March 2012

I was kinda thinking the same thing, that maybe I would consider that, but I don't know. I just don't want stragglers coming in, cause they will be turned away!

hmacsine · March 2012

I thought about this after I printed my invites. I was thinking about starting at 2:15 instead of 2:00.

melntaitt · March 2012

We're providing a shuttle to make sure guests are on time. My family doesn't drive in the US so they are depending on the shuttle and HAVE to be on time.

I'm putting it out there to the WP too; I don't need them to get married and we're starting at 5:30 pm SHARP. If they're not there on time, take a seat. The last thing I want is to have someone running down the aisle after we're already up there.

The DOC is also "shuffling" stragglers into the last row so they don't interrupt the ceremony if they come in late. Nobody is running up the aisle into the good seats if they arrive at 5:45 pm.

I sound harsh, I know, but if history is an indicator, my MOH and her family will be absurdly late. We had a lunch back in August and we met up at the venue for a look through at 1:30; she never showed up until almost 2:30 with no explanations. I'm not dealing with it...

mandydc0509 · March 2012

We're taking a lot of pictures before the ceremony, so the people that need to be there (immediate family, wedding party) will already be at the church dressed and ready to go.

As for everyone else, we're spreading word of mouth that the ceremony will start on time. The rest is up to them. I'm not catering to late people by putting a fake start time on the invitation; it's not fair for people who will show up on time. That may sound harsh, but I was really annoyed at the last wedding I attended that purposely started nearly half an hour late.

We're also not putting "SHARP!" or any comments like that on the wedding website. These guests are adults - that's their responsibility. .

kikilay17 · March 2012

I wish i would of done that go for it i wish my invitations werent done and already out because i know folks gone be late and we are starting on time

eneh2012 · March 2012

I am considering putting a fake start time too. I am always on time and I'm planning everything down to the minute so there should be no reason for the wedding to start late b/c of me. I know guests will take that start time as a suggestion or say, well weddings always start late anyway and show up late, so for that reason I may do like you and put the start time as 30 minutes early.

My nightmare is that as I'm getting ready to walk into the ceremony, there will still be guests filtering in. That would make me so mad!

rowenac82 · March 2012

Lots of great points! Still have to give it some thought. Thanks Ladies!

kamira87 · March 2012

I did. My wedding Is at 3:30 but I put 3pm on the invites

missowens · March 2012

It's true some of us just can't be on time for anything...lol I've thought about doing this, but FI is against it. He claims his people know how to be on time, it's my people/guests that are always late. But I beg to differ...lol

Misskin · March 2012

My invites will say 5:30 but i dont plan to walk until 6pm. My family already know that I do EVERYTHING on time so they will be shocked to see me ""run late". Also, because it is a friday night, holiday weekend and LA TRAFFIC, they will need that xtra 30mins.

kthowell · March 2012

I did it and trust me ladies you will NOT regret it....my sister put a hour and why was ppl still coming in at 6 when she put 5.....and my twin did 30 min b4

Soon2BSand · March 2012

I would be beyond annoyed if I got an invite that indicated a time and the wedding was planned to purposely start late. I'm very punctual and this is just rude and inconsiderate of others' time. Like PP said I'm not catering to the late spirit havin' folks. I don't need them to get married and they'll have to wait outside until the ceremony is done. If they're offended... I am too.

M1ssJ · March 2012

I am 100% doing this. My wedding is in the am and I want to be done in a timely manner. We are starting at 9:45am, I will put 9:30 on the invite. I wanted to put 9:15....

kthowell · March 2012

@SOON2BESAND.....i am also a person that has to always be early always...its a curse....and i hate not starting on time so to save my nerves i put a earlier time..........because it will start at 3 on the dot..not 3:01

Jana711 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_cp-time-hate-to-feed-into-the-stereotype?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:400Discussion:f85ffbb8-05b1-405f-a59f-b707268a96c5Post:41de1ce2-5e9e-4c9a-b34c-fab8088b583e">Re: "CP" time (hate to feed into the stereotype)</a>:
[QUOTE]I would be beyond annoyed if I got an invite that indicated a time and the wedding was planned to purposely start late. I'm very punctual and this is just rude and inconsiderate of others' time. Like PP said I'm not catering to the late spirit havin' folks. I don't need them to get married and they'll have to wait outside until the ceremony is done. If they're offended... I am too.
Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]

<div> THIS!! We're starting at 7pm sharp. My mother's side of the family tend to operate on CP time but I'm sure that my mom has relayed the message that we will be starting right at 7pm. If they're late, they'll be waiting outside until the ceremony is over. Now, my FMIL has a tendency to be tardy quite a bit. I've told FI to let her know that she needs to be there early and that we're starting at 7 regardless of if she's there or not.</div>

Made4Him · March 2012

I don't think it's fair for those guests that are punctual. My invite says 6 and I will start at 6, late comers just have to wait until my DOC lets them in.

kcc76 · March 2012

Never thought of doing this and I already have my invitiations.

ymw6110 · March 2012

My invites state the real time. I am telling my bridal party that the rehearsal starts at 5:00 though...eventhough it starts @ 5:30 just because it's in a busy part of Atlanta @ rush hour.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

My invite has the actual time, and I do plan to start on time. The ladies will put on the finishing touches at the venue, and transportation will be set to get FI and the guys there an hour prior to start time. Anyone running on CP time will miss the ceremony, oh well!!!

MrsJenrette · March 2012

I agree with Tasha!... @ my sister's wedding there was only 1 person (from my fathers side of the family), that missed the ceremony cause she was late. They thought that because my mother has a history of runnning late that it would be the case.. and not so!...lol

My mother has already alerted everyone, that my bridal party is Small, and they need to be there on time, or they will miss it all!..lol

lcroster · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_african-american-weddings_cp-time-hate-to-feed-into-the-stereotype?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural Wedding BoardsForum:400Discussion:f85ffbb8-05b1-405f-a59f-b707268a96c5Post:41de1ce2-5e9e-4c9a-b34c-fab8088b583e">Re: "CP" time (hate to feed into the stereotype)</a>:
[QUOTE]I would be <strong>beyond annoyed if I got an invite that indicated a time</strong> and the wedding was planned to purposely start late. I'm very punctual and this is just rude and inconsiderate of others' time. Like PP said I'm not catering to the late spirit havin' folks. I don't need them to get married and they'll have to wait outside until the ceremony is done. If they're offended... I am too.
Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]

I actually attended a wedding last Sept and they put the wrong time on it. It's just not right. I heard the bride did it b/c her mom is always late so there was a church full and no wedding party in sight for 30 minutes. The guest started chatting and we didnt' even notice when the ceremony started. I will not put a false time. If you aren't there prior to me walking down plan on seeing me at the reception b/c we will be starting on time.

RealHappyGal · March 2012

I put 11am and intend to walk around 11:15-11:20. I can see how many people are there from my bridal suite & guest list is only 35 so, Ill make the call at that time. But, I'll be ready to go at 11 and ready to delay a bit if I want. Call it by ear

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