Hi Ladies!
Just wondering if anyone on here is not going to change their last name once married? I have been very firm, since I was a little girl in fact, that I would never change my last name.
Without ever discussing it, my fiance knew the second he met me that if he asked me to marry him one day, that I would refuse to take his name.
With 10 mos to go before our wedding, I am starting to feel pressure from both my parents and his parents to change my last name. Everyone keeps reminding me that this is the one and only thing that my fiance feels so strongy about so why can't I just compromise! What about my feeling so strongly about not changing my name...no one is taking my feelings into consideration. My mother keeps babbling on about how honored she was to take my father's name. For me, it has nothing to do with not feeling honored to take my fiances name...I just want to simply keep my name.
My fiance feels that we are not a whole family unit bc our future kids will have a different name.
Has anyone else gone through this? This is our one and only issue before walking down the aisle. I've never felt pressured into doing anything before. I always do what I want regardless of what people think, feel, or say. I feel an immense amount of pressure and everyone is making me look like I'm the bad guy bc Im not giving in.
How would you handle this?