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Rethany · February 2012

Feel free to smack me if this has already been covered. Also, fair warning, I am overthinking this entirely way too much.

I just finished cutting all the RSVP postcards, so I am now finalizing the layout to print them. My mother and I discussed putting "Number attending" after the "Will attend" line. I feel like no matter what we do, people might read into things (as I am clearly doing right now!).

If we put the "Number attending" line, people may assume that means more are invited than those listed on the envelope (which is a bad assumption, but it's bound to happen) and may assume their children are invited and write down 5 when only 2 are invited.

If we don't put the "Number attending" line, I won't know if people will still assume their kids are invited and bring them to the wedding and I will have no way of informing them beforehand that unfortunately their children were not invited.

Does that make sense? Are you including a "Number attending" line? Can you tell me some pros and cons or things I am not clearly thinking of on my own to having (or not having) such a line?!

SoSaysTara · February 2012

Could you do ___________ of _________ are attending and fill in the the of ___________ line yourself?

So

______ Will attend
______ of 5 are attending.

Does that make sense?

Zimsgirl · February 2012

I have two lines that say name and under it is not attending or attending and meal choice

courtneyclare103 · February 2012

Ours will say ____ places reserved in your honor and the number will already be filled in. Then below that it says ____accepts ______ regrets and ____ # attending. I'll post a pic later, I'm on my phone right now. My mom thinks the only problem with this is that people will think it's okay to bring someone else if one person in the party can't make it since it will say 2 places reserved in your honor. I'm counting on no one being that rude.

littleluckypenny · February 2012

I have

____ seat(s) have been reserved in your honor

I'll put in the amount invited myself.

doeie04 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_attending?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:927bb6d8-1c48-4d27-8f98-4f2d0893a635Post:965b018b-005d-4e54-bbd5-f8e10724b231">Re: # attending.</a>:
[QUOTE]<strong>Could you do ___________ of _________ are attending and fill in the the of ___________ line yourself?</strong> So ______ Will attend ______ of 5 are attending. Does that make sense?
Posted by SoSaysTara[/QUOTE]

This is what we did.

smittojess88 · February 2012

If people who you are inviting have children I would make sure you make it pretty clear kids aren't invited. If I were reading those options an had children I wouldn't get that message.

Purple&7 · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_attending?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:927bb6d8-1c48-4d27-8f98-4f2d0893a635Post:965b018b-005d-4e54-bbd5-f8e10724b231">Re: # attending.</a>:
[QUOTE] So ______ Will attend ______ of 5 are attending. Does that make sense?
Posted by SoSaysTara[/QUOTE]
I like this idea! I was afraid we might have the same problem.

xobride · February 2012

We did:

Please RSVP by July 1, 2012
M______________________
Additional Guest's Name_______________

And left if at that.

jaime10285 · February 2012

We didn't put anything about number of people invited or attending. We figure when they select meal choices we'll know. If they pick 5 entrees and only Mr. & Mrs. were invited, then obviously we have a problem and we'll have to contact them. We told the big family members (grandmothers, aunts, etc) that it's adults only so between word of mouth and not listing children's names on the invites I think we're covered.

Rethany · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_attending?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:927bb6d8-1c48-4d27-8f98-4f2d0893a635Post:965b018b-005d-4e54-bbd5-f8e10724b231">Re: # attending.</a>:
[QUOTE] ______ Will attend ______ of 5 are attending. Does that make sense?
Posted by SoSaysTara[/QUOTE]
Yes, this makes perfect sense. I will probably end up doing this.

Jaime- We are having a buffet so we don't have a menu option, or else meal choice would definitely work!

And I've spread the word about the kid situation, but I still don't have faith in some people is all!

courtneyclare103 · February 2012

Here's the photo of mine:

leah2489 · February 2012

I was having this same dilema earlier today! This is what I came up with:

It's kind of small, it says We have reserved __ seats in your honor
Number attending___
Names of guests:

Shelly527IN · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.weddingchannel.com/main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_attending?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:927bb6d8-1c48-4d27-8f98-4f2d0893a635Post:fea36f8a-0625-438e-b198-5d85b5dbbc30">Re: # attending.</a>:
[QUOTE]Here's the photo of mine:
Posted by courtneyclare103[/QUOTE]

I like that! I'll have to do something similar. Thanks for posting it!

mrspatnou · February 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_attending?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:927bb6d8-1c48-4d27-8f98-4f2d0893a635Post:965b018b-005d-4e54-bbd5-f8e10724b231">Re: # attending.</a>:
[QUOTE]Could you do ___________ of _________ are attending and fill in the the of ___________ line yourself? So ______ Will attend ______ of 5 are attending. Does that make sense?
Posted by SoSaysTara[/QUOTE]

GREAT idea! :) My friend is getting married on MArch 17 and had many people add people to their invites and then had to call them and explain otherwise. I think this is a wonderful to keep that down!

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