Okay guys, I need some help! My boyfriend and I have been dating for 4 years, and we have unofficially gotten engaged. By that, I mean that we (and everyone who knows us) have already completely committed ourselves to one another, but want to wait until I graduate to get engaged and married. My boyfriend's mom is becoming a big problem. She talks about everybody, even complete strangers, behind their backs. She has verbally and physically abused my boyfriend on multiple occasions, and definitely verbally abuses him on a daily basis. He is living at home right now, working and trying to pay off his student debt since he graduated in May. My main problem is this: She and I just had a little blowout because she was making fun of him and I interjected and told her off. I have tried my best to put up with her and help their family stay together, but finally had enough. My boyfriend just wants to elope so we don't have to deal with his family, but I can't imagine leaving my family out of our wedding. I am very close with my parents, and don't know what to do. I want my parents there, but I don't want his to come and ruin everything. I feel like it isn't fair for him to not have anybody and me have my parents. Either way, we wanted to have a very intimate wedding with a guest list of around 15. Does anybody have any suggestions for me?