Engaged for 5 Months and No Ring

Re: Engaged for 5 Months and No Ring

• AmeliaAndSeth8890 member

  

  November 2010

  Does he consider you guys engaged? It doesn't really sound like he does.

  

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• Zidel333

  

  November 2010 edited November 2010

  Nah, he considers us engaged. My parents know, and they both gave us their hearty consent. His parents don't know yet in part because he wants to wait until it's a good time. And no, I don't know when that'll be sadly.  

  
  

  I should also mention, that we're currently planning the wedding for spring of 2012, so there's no real rush for the ring per se. 

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• PandaBurr member

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engaged-5-months-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:0847a9d8-0418-4372-a2da-100e38b332d7Post:1f91bda6-d23f-4a2b-9650-6063d8ae3699">Engaged for 5 Months and No Ring</a>:
  [QUOTE]Is this weird? How long do you think I should wait before it's been "long enough"?  In fairness,<strong> he proposed in part because he was begging to take me back</strong>. He has since told me, honestly, that he planning on proposing later when his job status and income was more secure. I suppose, in 2-3 years....?  What do you guys think? 
  Posted by Zidel333[/QUOTE]
  
  If you were going to leave him, why would you agree to marry him?

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• ootmother2 member

  

  November 2010

  I can't read anything with all those blue stars.

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• AmeliaAndSeth8890 member

  

  November 2010

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_engaged-5-months-ring?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:0847a9d8-0418-4372-a2da-100e38b332d7Post:7e7c0db4-d14f-4e66-83b1-afb355708b59">Re: Engaged for 5 Months and No Ring</a>:
  [QUOTE]Nah, he considers us engaged. My parents know, and they both gave us their hearty consent. <strong>His parents don't know yet</strong> in part because he wants to wait until it's a good time. And no, I don't know when that'll be sadly.   I should also mention, that we're currently planning the wedding for spring of 2012, so there's no real rush for the ring per se. 
  Posted by Zidel333[/QUOTE]
  
  You aren't concerned that he hasn't told his parents? If not - why? Also, agree with PP - it sounds like you were breaking up and then he popped the question sans ring. That wasn't a concern as well? (Not that there was no ring, but the timing) Or maybe it was, I don't pretend to know, I just know it would be for me.
  
  And yes, I am getting married in 2012 also, so I suppose there is no "need" for a ring, but it sounds like you would like one or you wouldn't have posted the question. Is that what you wanted to hear - that it's okay to not have a ring and be engaged? Because it is. The engagement = intent to marry, not piece of jewelry. It just sounds as if he is not ready, hence not telling his parents, buying a ring, proposing at a better time, etc.

  

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• Miracle Cat

  

  November 2010

  Wow, a proposal as a means of begging you to take him back....I don't know that I would have accepted that kind of proposal, but that's just me...Obviously you were planning to leave him - why would a proposal change your mind?

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• RMacQueen member

  

  November 2010

  So... are you engaged? Yay or nay?

  

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• jnc1113

  

  November 2010

  You don't need a ring to be engaged.  One party asking another to marry him/her and that party agreeing = engaged.  Many women get engaged without rings and stay that way and it is an insult to their engagements to consider the lack of a ring troubling.  Congrats on your engagement.
  
  That said, with him hiding it from his folks, it sounds like there's a lot of issues that need to be worked out before the spring of '12 when you get married.  I'd suggest working on all of those before planning a thing.
  

  
  
  
  
  

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