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Invitation Wording Etiquette

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Ok, so...I never knew this before but I recently read something about how the way you word the invitation "request line" should reflect the place that your wedding is taking place (a house of worship vs. a secular place). So, I looked it up and apparently for a wedding at a house of worship the wording should be, "So & so request the honor of your presence" while a secular location should be, "request the pleasure of your company." Did you guys follow this rule?

I'm not sure what my location would be considered. Technically, it is a chapel, but it isn't a practicing church anymore (now it's just a wedding venue) and we may end up having the wedding out in the garden (weather permitting). I don't want my wording to be misleading, but we ARE having a semi-religious ceremony and I think it would be nice to reflect that. Does this even matter? Am I over-analyzing? Thoughts?
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  • cwaggoner07cwaggoner07 member
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    I'm just one person, but I have never heard of that before. I wouldn't read either of those and think one thing or another. Just my opinion!

    Also if you're listing 'so and so chapel' on the invite, people will know if it matters that much to them (which I doubt it would).
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    Yes I have heard of it and went with "pleasure of your company" since we got married in a hotel.  We still had a religious ceremony, it just wasn't in a house of worship, hence the wording.
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  • AshJohnson30AshJohnson30 member
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    i actually just saw this rule recently. If Martha Stewart is coming to your wedding than you should follow the etiquette rule, if not go with what you like best.  i honestly don't know how much it matters. We did "pleasure of your company" cause we liked the way that sounded more.
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  • crash2729crash2729 member
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    Ive never heard of that....I don't even remember what my invites said but I'm pretty sure I didn't follow that rule.
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
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    I actually just read on Emily Post that you use the European "honoUr" if the wedding is in a house of worship.  H and I detest European spellings, so we didn't do that.

    Obviously the rules are going to vary depending on which etiquette expert you go with.  
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  • angelsong21angelsong21 member
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    We ddin't follow this.  We used pre-gen wording from WPD so ours said "honor of your presence" and we didn't get married in a house of worship (but did have a religious ceremony).  I liked the traditional wording and no one thought anything of that as far as I'm aware.  Just go with whatever feel better to you.
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  • ejheartejheart member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_invitation-wording-etiquette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:c434ae01-1bfc-420d-bda3-dbb8992d15fePost:9a245e93-f567-499f-ba54-badd8d5ea738">Re: Invitation Wording Etiquette</a>:
    [QUOTE]i actually just saw this rule recently. If Martha Stewart is coming to your wedding than you should follow the etiquette rule, if not go with what you like best.  i honestly don't know how much it matters. We did "pleasure of your company" cause we liked the way that sounded more.
    Posted by AshJohnson30[/QUOTE]

    HA, that is actually exactly where I read it from when I googled it. Damn Martha. If she actually WAS attending I'd be putting her to work, that's for sure.

    I think you're right though, Amanda. It's probably going to vary depending on whose etiquette expertise you follow anyway.

    I think we're going to order through WPD too, so I'm thinking I'll just go with whatever the pre-made template says, since it will be just one extra step to ask them to change it (and I don't really have a preference.) Thanks, guys!
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