Groom only wants to register for music

angelaken · May 2010

We've registered at a few different places, going in and picking things out together. He actually picked out some china he liked! Now, he wants to register for boxed sets of his favorite music and I don't think it's appropriate because that's more of a gift just for him and less about "starting our life together" (we've been living together for about 9 months now). I tried to meet him halfway and said we could register for better stereo equipment, a new record player, etc. but that isn't good enough because he feels I'm registering for a whole lot of things I really want. What I really want is a nice life together and yes, I do happen to like new and better cookware and dishes and other household items. Would you feel comfortable adding personal items like this to your registry? He really doesn't camp or play sports or watch TV so the traditional groom registry suggestions are even less appealing.

gottahavashorti · May 2010

At the last wedding we went to, a few of us bought the couple board games they'd registered for in addition to household items. I don't really see how music is any different from games, camping supplies or sports stuff so I think it would be appropriate to have on the registry. Some people will want to buy a fun item and your FI's friends may be excited to get him nicer copies of what they know to be his favorite music.

quotequeen · May 2010

I think the registry should be for things that you will use, enjoy, or benefit from together as a couple. If it was music you both liked, I think it would be fine, but something that is just for him is not. Even if he's not planning on cooking with the new pots, he is going to eat the food that is made in them, so those are for him as well. Registering for music that only he would listen to is like you registering for shoes.

Galaxy8227 · May 2010

I think adding in a few things of music would be fine. FI wanted a tool shed and a lawn mower, things I will never use, but things that were important to him so we did it. If you only had music, I would be put off too, but for a few things I think it's fine.

Brie2010 · May 2010

I'm not going to lie--I would give this the side-eye. But my circle is pretty traditionals as far as registries go. A cousin of mine registered for DVDs about 5 years ago and my mom and aunts are still rolling their eyes about it. You have to know your crowd, though--if you think they'd be okay with it, go for it.

karmellah · May 2010

mine wants to rgister for a new computer, sofa, and dvds

andy71781 · May 2010

I think its fine to register for stuff that you two enjoy together as a couple. Our REI registry is a lot more developed than our Macy's registry.

girl2bewed · May 2010

I also think this is fine!

frenchy730 · May 2010

It's fine to register for a few fun items. Music can be seen as a good addition to starting your new life together... you guys can dance together!

Festiva · May 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_groom-only-wants-register-music?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:ab29030b-df2f-4b40-9a1d-a9899fdee813Post:2699686d-a40b-4a19-bffa-cea258dc6b12">Re: Groom only wants to register for music</a>:
[QUOTE]At the last wedding we went to, a few of us bought the couple board games they'd registered for in addition to household items. I don't really see how music is any different from games, camping supplies or sports stuff so I think it would be appropriate to have on the registry. Some people will want to buy a fun item and your FI's friends may be excited to get him nicer copies of what they know to be his favorite music.
Posted by gottahavashorti[/QUOTE]

I agree, there will be people who will love getting to buy something he'll sincerely enjoy...over the towels or cookware.
I once went to a wedding inwhich the bride/groom had registered for art supplies for her and a Wii = ) I relished buying the art supplies!

tiffersnc · May 2010

I also agree this is fine as long as the traditional things are still there, too. One of the last registries we bought from included board games and a poker set - which we LOVED being able to buy because it was a little different and more fun than a set of towels. Don't go overboard or anything, but I think it's fine to include a few "fun" things in your registry.

lemken · May 2010

Let him register for music - you can register whatever you'd like... anyways, whatever you don't get, you get discounts on later to purcahse yourself. We registered for everything! :-p

JennaV26 · May 2010

Let him register for it if it's one thing that he really wants! He may have picked out some china that he liked but I guarantee that KitchenAide mixer and crystal stemware that's more than likely on your registry thrills you way more than him.

People may side-eye when they see it, but then they just won't buy it. And hey, if no one buys it maybe you'll get a discount on it once the wedding is over since most places offer incentives for you to register at their store.

[Deleted User] · May 2010

I think that even though he's eating off the cookware too, if you're the one that will use them more and you're the one that will get 98% of the enjoyment out of them and you're the one that mostly picked them out, let him have the music. There are things worth fighting over and this is not one of them. Maybe pick out something in the entertainment category that both of you agree on too. Like a favorite show boxed set, board games, a barware set, or outdoorsy stuff.

MissSarahB · May 2010

Let's not argue the fact that no matter what is said, the wedding is about what the bride wants. I say let him add his music set so he can feel he has something for him. After all, we get the showers, the dress, the hair and makeup, the pampering, the attention....If all he wants is this boxed set, I say let him go for it!

And so what if your family is against it? Just tell them not to buy it for him.

ev4149 · May 2010

My fiance put on tv boxed sets and playstation 3 games. It makes him happy, so I don't care. If other people don't want to but it, they don't have to buy it. That's how I look at it.

kellyf87 · May 2010

When my fiance and i registered we had items we both wanted and then we agreed that we would pick out a few items just for ourselves. If you agree to only put a couple things that are seperates then that seems a good way to get what you both really want as a couple and individually.

goetzr19 · May 2010

As long as the music portion of the registry doesn't make up more than 1/4 of your registry, I don't see a problem with it. My FI and I are big board game players, so we registered for fun things like that as well. If your circle of friends and family are not as "traditional" for registries, you should be fine. And if someone doesn't want to get you the music, they won't.

vsahm · May 2010

I'm 26 and own my own home... My FI will be moving in once we're married, but the fact is that my house if basically fully furnished. I've been living alone since I was 22. We registered for things like a new set of dishes and flatware, so that we have 12 matching place settings for when we have family over for dinner and a couple new sets of sheets since we plan on getting a bigger bed. But we also registered for fun stuff, like extra Wii game controllers and fun party video and board games. We're having a non-traditional destination wedding and huge party at home afterwards, and everyone that is invited is close family and friends, so we figure they will all understand why we registered for what we did.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · May 2010

Well, you aren't demanding people buy them. I would probably buy a gift the COUPLE would like, but someone might think an off-beat gift is a cool idea. I'd let him have his way if he's set on it.

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