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Bridal Shower/Bachelorette Party

Ashly018Ashly018
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So my Aunt and my mother are planning to host a bridal shower for me, and that fine with me, the part that is bothering is my mom is trying to turn it into a bachelorette party at the same time.  I'm not complaining that she's wanting to do this, I'm just concerned that my family and friends who will be invited to the "bridal shower" will be bothered by a stripper and who know knows what else happening.  When my mom asked my MOH's opinion she told her that she didn't think combining the 2 parties was such a great idea because most of my cousins  might be uncomfortable around their moms and a stripper... male or female...

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  • SmileykazSmileykaz
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    Oh why must there be a stripper?! I don't get that, never have.

    I'm just having a bridal shower, NO bachelorette party (or hen night as we call it here) because I don't want any of that stripper nonsense going on!

    Tell your mother you'd prefer the bridal shower on XX date and then a seperate bachelorette party, cos honestly innocent games such as 'make a wedding dress out of toilet paper' don't go well with oiled up nekkid man gyrating on the mother of the bride!
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  • Ashly018Ashly018
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    I don't want a stripper either.  I don't care for a bachelorette party, my bridal party and I are having a girls weekend in Vegas instead. We leave the day after the shower.  I already told my mom that I don't want a stripper, and she flipped out saying it's either her way or there wont be one.
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  • SmileykazSmileykaz
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    It's either her way or there won't be one?! Does she mean there won't be a bridal shower at all?!

    Jaysis!

    Right, if that's the way she wants it, tell her that's fine, if anyone asks why you're not having a bridal shower you'll just tell them it's because your Mom couldn't go ONE afternoon without paying a man to get naked for her.

    That might shut her up!
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  • SaraAndrew2010SaraAndrew2010 member
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    I would be very uncomfortable if I were invited to a bridal shower and a stripper was there.  They should be two separate events.
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  • lharri12lharri12 member
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    God, I hope there is no stripper at my bachelorette party...  My future MIL is trying to have my bridal shower the afternoon after my bachelorette party.  I'm thinking this is not a good idea.  I want to be pleasant and pretty at my bridal shower, not pale, nauseated, and bitchy.
    Guess I didn't answer your question.  Just tell your mother that you appreciate her help in planning, but you would be a LOT more comfortable if these were two separate events.  She should understand why you don't want older female family members at your bachelorette party.  Hopefully you won't have to paint the ugly picture of your Aunt Gladys getting an unsolicited lap dance by a guy in a tiger-striped thong.
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  • felicia220felicia220 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_bridal-showerbachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:a379a906-6f1f-47de-9004-d7920bd31020Post:9a46f723-96ca-4e27-b9f5-01b9ea20992c">Re: Bridal Shower/Bachelorette Party</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't want a stripper either.  I don't care for a bachelorette party, my bridal party and I are having a girls weekend in Vegas instead. We leave the day after the shower.  I already told my mom that I don't want a stripper, and she flipped out saying it's either her way or there wont be one.
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    </div><div>Thats crazy, I can't even imagine my mom getting a stripper.  I would rather not have a shower if there HAS to be a stripper involved.  Also Stripper does not = Bachelorette Party, going away to Vegas with your girls for the weekend IS a Bachelorette Party, it doesn't matter what you are doing it is just the fact that you are with your girls celebrating.  Not all men go to the strip club and it is still consider a Bachelor Party when he is out with his boys.  

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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    You should call her bluff. Tell her since she feels so strongly about having a stripper, you don't want the shower. I'll bet her desire to give you a shower will win out over hiring that stripper.
                       
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    I agree, they should be two seperate events. They could be in the same weekend though. I am not too thrilled about the whole stripper thing either and hope they don't get me one since I have expressed this to the ladies that are doing it.
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  • amwilli5amwilli5
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    I totally wouldn't do both either.  Just tell mom that you would much prefer different nights as it is kind of embarrassing for your cousins and whoever else seeing naked men dancing around in front of them and their mothers.  If she doesn't understand this then tell her you want neither and hopefully she'll get the picture and just do the bridal shower.  
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