My zen planning experience came to an end when the caterer went flaky on me.
She know's what she's doing but is a very poor communicator.
Sending e mail back and forth trying to finalize everything. Finally I asked her to please call me and please forgive me but I don't understand what she's trying to relate to me. It didn't happen. She didn't call and I went bridezilla because she's getting all the details wrong for the final contract.
Also they provide linen, so she is questioning my linen colors because she felt it would make the room look drab. She's not seen the room.
Then, she questioning all my decisions, why are you using banquet tables???? Other brides blahblahblah..on everything. Other brides do this, other brides do that, STFU I don't care !!!!!! what other brides do.
I don't give a rat's behind what other brides do, don't talk down to me I'm not young. I wrote her I would find a linen vendor that would work with my color vision without question, and I had to stop communicating with her after I went bridezilla on her because she's droning on in e mail about everything except our final details, like her daughter's wedding. I don't care lady, let's get these things finalized.
Then she tries to guilt trip me about the final meeting which is on Labor Day that SHE set up with me about how now she has to miss her BBQ and the boss wants everyone to come becuase they all have worked so hard this year, it's been so tough, and can't we drive there this evening for the meeting. I went bullistic.
They are 2 hours away in rush hour. My fiance gets off the train at 6pm, no we aren't coming in the evening. I'm not adjusting my schedule, Im the customer, treat me like one. Then double injury, when she said I took her wrong she was just trying not to ruin our weekend with the meeting.
We are doing a con call on Friday morning and paying by Credit Card, because I don't want to see her now. She got her wish. I stopped communicating with her and FI has been very diplomatic and dealiing with it. Had a con call with her this morning with Fiance to finalize all her stupid questions. Trying to tell her exactly what linen she is diong and the whole time she's interupting me at every sentence. I just kept talking till she STFU. Then I reviewed it all. I did find another linen vendor to complete my vision, and my florist vision.
What they don't understand is they aren't the only thing or vendor I have to do or deal with this week. I have the whole wedding to finalize. Well HAD the whole wedding to finalize until ......
I let go of it all and handed the whole thing off to my wedding planner to fininsh, because I'm so done..... stress relief is need with 9 days to go.
That is all, back to zen state of mind now. Focusing on my final details like cleaning, organizing laundry packing for the honeymoon. etc. Final glown fitting.
I told the planner to drive this train home, it's her baby now. She has all decision making powers. Don't tell me about final details and crises, just deal with it, I'm done.
Just a few more days of work.... then fianlly a vacation after 9 loooong months.
Have a happy day everyone!!!
