Frustration

porky · September 2011

I was so excited to send out my invitations and was looking forward to celebrating with family and friends. A large number of my work colleagues mentioned they could not wait to come to my wedding.

My RSVP day is tomorrow, September 18th and as of now I have 69 guests; 61 rejects and am still waiting to hear from 27 people. I am really hurt that there are so many people not attending.

I should be happy because we will most likely be getting money back, but I wish more of our friends were able to make it. Only 3 of my FI's friends will be coming to the wedding.

I have colleagues tell me that they mailed their response cards days ago, but yet I have not received any of them. Frustration! My numbers are due to our venue by the end of next week. Looks like I will be making some phone calls on Monday.

Sorry for the vent.

Carrie

azdancer8 · September 2011

I'm sorry you're frustrated and have so many people saying no.

Remember that some people don't mail their RSVPs until the day they are due, so give them a couple of days to get to you. Maybe wait until Wed to call?

porky · September 2011

Thanks. I have had several people tell me they mailed their response cards early last week and I still do not have them which leads me to believe they did not mail them.

I am so stressed right now. All of our foods costs have gone down which is great, but for some reason I think we have a minimum dollar amount we have to meet and I do not know if that will be possible now.

sprtychick10 · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_christian-weddings_frustration?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:464687ae-7bc1-4360-9aea-999e11f1e1adDiscussion:e3d11ec3-5e33-47a8-963b-d1c3e656856fPost:8da3f1f8-f4b7-469d-af7a-1b10f682938d">Re: Frustration</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks. I have had several people tell me they mailed their response cards early last week and I still do not have them which leads me to believe they did not mail them. I am so stressed right now. All of our foods costs have gone down which is great, but for some reason <strong>I think we have a minimum dollar amount we have to meet and I do not know if that will be possible now.</strong>
Posted by porky[/QUOTE]

<div>I have never heard of this before....</div><div>Don't get frustrated over the negative responses. Just remember, at the end of the day, you are marrying your love. Do you have a lot of OOT guests? Maybe that is why there are more no RSVP's then you were expecting</div>

mrandmrsbrist · September 2011

Sorry to hear that a lot of people are saying no.

iamjoesgurl · September 2011

It is hurtful to invite friends and family members and then they say they can't come. I felt those same emotions for our wedding. I still have some feelings of hurt that some people didn't come and then they didn't even send a card to wish us well and let us know that they were thinking of us.

But try not to let this ruin your day. We also had a minimum and we ended up paying for people who didn't come, but at the end of the day, I was married to my best friend and that was worth it all.

Hopefully you'll hear from everyone else this week so that you don't have too many calls to make. Hang in there!

AshNoel8 · September 2011

Aw sorry to hear that girl! I know what you mean, but try not to let it get to you. I agree, wait until at least Wednesday.

porky · September 2011

I know the most important part of the day is that I am marrying my best friend and I cannot wait. It hurts that people who have been telling me for months they are coming to my wedding have bailed out.

I am going to start calling people tonight (I am anticipating that I will be leaving messages for many of them and I need return calls). My FI told me that I should not be upset - that the people who are coming care about us the most and want to be there to show their love and support, and then celebrate with us. I know he is right.

Thank you for all your support. Dealing with my small guest list is hard since my brother's wedding this past weekend had about 150 people. I am not trying to compare my upcoming wedding to his as they are 2 completely different weddings.

AllyG303 · September 2011

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[QUOTE]I<strong> know the most important part of the day is that I am marrying my best friend and I cannot wait</strong>. It hurts that people who have been telling me for months they are coming to my wedding have bailed out. I am going to start calling people tonight (I am anticipating that I will be leaving messages for many of them and I need return calls). <strong>My FI told me that I should not be upset - that the people who are coming care about us the most and want to be there to show their love and support, and then celebrate with us</strong>. I know he is right. Thank you for all your support. Dealing with my small guest list is hard since my brother's wedding this past weekend had about 150 people. I am not trying to compare my upcoming wedding to his as they are 2 completely different weddings.
Posted by porky[/QUOTE]

This is a great attitude to have. It could be worse...my FI's family decided to have a family reunion 2 weeks before our wedding next year and FI's own grandma said that she probably won't come to the wedding because she doesn't want to spend money on travel to get there (even though we decided to have it smack in the middle of where our 2 families live).

You and FI being married at the end of the day is the most important thing, not who is there watching it and celebrating with you. They are just a bonus

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