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No showers, no gifts = honeymoon??

Angie10726Angie10726 member
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Ok, so my fiancé and I just got engaged and are planning on having a small wedding in his parent's backyard in August. We already own a home and pretty much have everything we need, so we don't have much we need for a registery. We are putting every penny we have towards the wedding because we are having to pay for it ourselves. Since we have a limited budget, we aren't going to be able to take a honeymoon.
Yesterday, a co-worker was telling me about the option of having a website and people contributing to your honesymoon as a gift. Have y'all seen this? Heard of this??
I need feedback asap. Gracias y'all! Laughing
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  • a-c-da-c-d member
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    edited December 2011
    We were in the same boat because this was a 2nd wedding for both of us. We created an online honeymoon registry through thebigday.com. It was very user friendly and free to set-up, however, there is a small service fee on each gift. (You do NOT have to book your travel through them. We just made it very clear to everyone that our honeymoon was really the biggest thing we wanted to focus on and we got a great response.

    We also used our travel agent for those that are less internet-saavy. She accpeted checks mailed to her or over the phone credit card payments and just applied them to our honeymoon package.


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  • p1001p1001
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    edited December 2011
    ditto here.  we set up a website via honeyfund (http://www.honeyfund.com/wedding/monikacarmen) and opted for cash or check gifts only (there's a small fee if you get a gift via credit card or paypal).  i was really hesitant at first, but our family & friends loved the idea.  and our honeymoon was really the trip of our lifetime =)
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  • a-c-da-c-d member
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    edited December 2011
    I wanted to add one more thing. :o)

    Lots of people told us that they LOVED the option of buying "pieces" of our honeymoon. I am going to take a list with us and make sure we take pictures in the specific areas people purchased. Then when we return, we can email or mail them a copy of the picture so they can SEE what they bought!
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  • Angie10726Angie10726 member
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    edited December 2011
    AWESOME!! Thank you for the input. I'll definitely be researching honeyfun and the bigday!

    I'm open for any other info or suggestions!!
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  • BabyBlueNTexasBabyBlueNTexas member
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    edited December 2011
    Oh I am so glad that my Austin brides are supportive of this!! :) I am so for this too... just be aware that many brides find this tacky, so don't let it discourage you from the boards when someone says that. I think it is a great idea, and we plan on doing it too.

    Bravo ladies!
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  • rerawaltrerawalt member
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    edited December 2011
    Just to give you the other side, I think this thing really depends on your social circle and what is accepted.  Among my friends, this is considered very tacky (they feel it is like asking for money and that you shouldn't be going on a trip that you can't afford).  If you were to post this on the ettiquette board you would be slammed all over the place.  I am personally neutral, I don't have a problem if other people do it but also don't see myself setting up one.  The only reason I added this comment is that I would feel out some of your immediate family and close friends.  If they think it's a great idea then go for it.
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  • kayla8558kayla8558
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    edited December 2011
    Some of our friend got married three weeks ago and used a honeymoon registry. When they posted their pics on facebook they tagged everyone who contributed to each outing. I thought it was cute :) 
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  • reddie36reddie36
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    edited December 2011
    We used Honeyfund too - I got a premium site. We ended up with only two physical gifts, and the rest was $$ toward our two weeks in Greece. I'd say it was about 75% paid for through the Honeyfund. Great thing was when we got back we sent everyone pics of us doing whatever they bought us off our registry - they loved it. We added gift cards for 'Home Improvement' after the wedding (since people still give you gifts after the wedding) and we got about $500 toward that too. It was a great decision & no one had any issues with it, the guests all thought it was a great idea.
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  • MnMShawMnMShaw member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm just playing the other side as rerawalt did.  It depends on the crowd of your wedding.  We invited more family and older people to our wedding and in my experience, the older the crowd the more traditional they see things and many of the younger people don't care.  IMO, It's not my style.  If you already have a lot of things, use this time to upgrade to nicer things with your registry.  Some people just like buying gifts and don't like buying gift cards/money and I would consider the honeymoon funds in those categories.  Just something to think about it. 
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  • classykat22classykat22
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    edited December 2011
    We are looking to do the same thing for our wedding...as we both are well established and don't need stuff.  We created a wedding website through The Knot and we added a page..."in lieu of gifts...",where we explained that we were not going to register but if our friends/family want to do something for us, our honeymoon would be what we would want most.  I plan on having a card box at the wedding for our guests instead of an online site only because I don't want to pay or have our friends pay a service fee.  I talked with some of our friends/family and everyone seems very comfortable with the idea.  Hope this helps  
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  • lizydishlizydish
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    edited December 2011
    I set up one as well (Honeyfund) I've had a house for 7 years and had to purge things when my FI moved in. My friends and family loved the idea but I did get a feel for it first. I think its an awesome idea!   PS I created a website on the knot and dont have registy info for my invites. I added the wedding URL instead w Registry info.  PPS They get really really nuts about this on the honeymoon board so beware.
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  • Angie10726Angie10726 member
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    edited December 2011
    WOW! Thanks everyone!-great input!!!
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