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526SadieSadie · September 2012

Hey ladies-
I got a FB invite to a friend's wedding reception. They eloped last year and have been waiting to have a reception with friends - all good there. The thing is - they registered. The reception is at the bar/restaurant where the bride works and I have a sneaking suspicion that meals aren't included in the party - meaning, if we go and we want to eat, we have to pay for our own food. This isn't confirmed, again, just a suspicion I have.

I'd really love to go and celebrate their one-year anniversary but I feel like its kind of gift-grabby, don't you give up on getting all the gifts when you elope? Am I crazy? FYI: This isn't a super close friend, we were close a few years ago but we lost touch, I haven't seen her in at least two years.

WWYD?

SunriseAmber · September 2012

It might be poor etiquette but I'd still go and bring a gift to celebrate with her. I would also bring cash just to be prepared if I have to pay for the meal.

There isn't much you can do about it. You either go or you don't. You can't scold her or try to correct her behavior. So just go with the flow.

AdeleDazeem · September 2012

I'd go, but not buy a gift. I'd pretend like hell I didn't see their registry because it's rather forward to register for an anniversary party, in my opinion.

EDIT: I dunno why I quoted you so I deleted that :-)

twilightmoon1 · September 2012

If you don't want to eat there, just eat before hand and then order a small salad while there, or a drink. Bring a gift, since just because they eloped doesn't mean the friendship has any less value and the gift is about honoring your friend and their marriage, not the ceremony.

Just my 2c.

peekaboo2011 · September 2012

I agree with Joy. This isn't a reception for their elopement, it's an anniversary celebration.

Also, whether or not you bring a gift should have no bearing on your friendship. If you guys really aren't close and haven't really talked in two years, and all of a sudden she's invited you to a party and registered, that seems gift-grabby. But, I feel like parties like that are not the best time to rekindle old friendships.

mrsbiss2be · September 2012

Even though it's not proper ettiquette I would still bring a present. Now, if they have registered for things on the more pricey side, I would take it upon myself to choose a nice simple gift not on the registry. Since there was no wedding, reception and it's being held in a very casual place where you actually may have to pay for your meal, I wouldn't buy something expensive.

Then again, FI and I love getting gifts for people so I'm not sure if I would be the best one to give advice on this. lol

achiduck · September 2012

I'd still go and celebrate with them, but I would either skip the gift or get something really inexpensive.

KatWAG · September 2012

I agree with Joy. Go and congratulate then but skip the gift.

LesPaul · September 2012

I'd probably go, and give them a very nice anniversary card.

526SadieSadie · September 2012

ok, good to know I'm not crazy.
I was thinking about making them something with their names in it, a piece of wall art or maybe a quilty type thing for their apartment. I looked at the registry and it looks like some expensive stuff and dvds.

I would love to rekindle the friendship, I've been really lonely for a while, my friends kind of suck like that.

Blueyed228 · September 2012

I would go, but bring an anniversary card or a very small gift like a frame or something.

Thats a lot of balls to register for you anniversary.

NuggetBrain · September 2012

....snarkies?

SachaBee · September 2012

Making them a gift is really sweet and generous and such a kind gesture. I don't think the registry is proper either but if you have the time and inclination to make such a nice gift, it's up to you!

MrsGandthebeag · September 2012

I would go but probably wouldn't give a gift. Did the invite include any info about dinner, like choices? Is it at dinner time? I'd probably bring money in case you do have to pay for food.

ejheart · September 2012

Soo, I have to ask...how did you find out about their registry? Did they actually post it on the FB invite?

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