Donations for Honeymoon

Re: Donations for Honeymoon

• hoffse member

  

  January 2013

  1) Honeymoon registries are usually scams.  Most of them take a cut of the gift that people give, so instead of $100 you get $92.70.  If you want cash, just make a very small registry and leave it at that.  Most people will get the hint, and those (like me) who hate to give cash in the first place will have a list of physical items you prefer.  Wouldn't you rather take a single trip to the bank to deposit all those checks instead of losing a couple hundred bucks in service fees?

  
  

  2) As a guest, I don't want to pay for somebody's sex fest, scam or not.

  
  

  3) As a guest, I really don't want to pay for somebody's vacation that's to an event as expensive as the world cup.  If you and your FI can afford it, I think it's a great idea for your honeymoon.  But it's pretty tacky to ask other people to foot the bill.

  
  

  4) Timing matters in all this as well.  Most people take a honeymoon right after the wedding.  What happens when people read the fine print and decide not to contribute to your HM registry, and you get the memo while in Brazil that you suddenly can't pay for it?  You won't get the cash until after the vacation is booked, and surely we don't have to tell you that this could be a very expensive gamble.  And many brides on here will tell you that starting your marriage in serious debt from either a party (the wedding) or a vacation (the honeymoon) is going to really mess with your first  years of marriage.  What many ladies on here advise instead is to plan the honeymoon you can afford (and then use any cash gifts you receive for a small upgrade - a massage, a nice dinner, etc).  Or you can postpone the honeymoon until you see what you get, what you managed to save out of your wedding budget generally, etc.  A lot of people take a big 1 year trip instead, and that makes all sorts of sense.  It may mean you don't see the world cup, but at least you wouldn't be buried in debt.

  

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• Summer2011Bride member

  

  January 2013

  There are many posts on here and the HM board regarding HM registries. I would take some time to read up on them. Also ditto PP.
  
  To reiterate, you should not ask guests for cash, which is what you'd be doing. HM registries take a cut of the money, so you don't even get the full amount like you would if they just put a check in a card and gave it to you. The HM registry also doesn't actually book excursions like guests think they are. They simply send you a check in the mail minus their cut. Why would you want to do that and lose out on money instead of just not registering and spreading via word of mouth that you are saving up to go to the World Cup?

  
  
  
  
  

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2013

  Ditto Hoffse. I'm not a fan of this or any kind of honeymoon registry. Asking for cash is always inappropriate. 

  
  

  
  

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• Avion22 member

  

  January 2013

  Donations are for charities.  You're talking about gifts.   It's rude to ask for money (which is basically what you are doing when you register for a honeymoon).   Everyone knows that money is a good gift -- you don't have to ask for it.  When/if people do choose to give you money for your wedding, you can do with it whatever you want.

  

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• lovesclimbing member

  

  January 2013

  My husband and I had a fairly large registry and we got a lot of physical gifts.  However, we still got a lot of cash and checks and gift cards.  Way more than we were expecting.  You probably don't have to worry about getting a fair amount of cash especially if you have a small registry.

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