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Bidesmaids gifts enough?

mdupon70997mdupon70997 member
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I am giving each of my bridesmaids $20 towards their shoes (silver heel of their choosing), and I am paying for their hair on the day-of. I'm not requiring them to have their hair done, but if they want to I will pay for it. And they all want to have their hair doe. Is this enough? Why do I feel like I need to give them something more? Should I?
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Re: Bidesmaids gifts enough?

  • ViczaesarViczaesar member
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    You should get something that is unrelated to your wedding.



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  • hoffsehoffse member
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    Yeah give them something that has nothing to do with the day-of.  $20 toward shoes obviously goes to shoes that they have to wear that day.
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  • TimbersGirlTimbersGirl
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    I personally think that would be enough. Yes, the gift is a nice gesture, but I see it this way: if they are expecting to get a gift for being in your wedding, then they shouldn't be there. You are not obligated or commanded to give a gift. I see the gift as a nice thank you that is purely optional. In all honesty, if I were in your wedding and got the shoe money and hair covered, I would see that as my gift and I would be happy with it.
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  • mdupon70997mdupon70997 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_bidesmaids-gifts-enough?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:4c439344-3911-400a-8ca0-b819fe7e0c48Post:9b738498-3013-4fa7-bb85-cff13c640332">Re: Bidesmaids gifts enough?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I personally think that would be enough. Yes, the gift is a nice gesture, but I see it this way: if they are expecting to get a gift for being in your wedding, then they shouldn't be there. You are not obligated or commanded to give a gift. I see the gift as a nice thank you that is purely optional. In all honesty, if I were in your wedding and got the shoe money and hair covered, I would see that as my gift and I would be happy with it.
    Posted by TimbersGirl[/QUOTE]

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    </div><div>That's what I thought, too. I've never expected a gift as a bridesmaid. Although I've always gotten one, it's always been something to do with the wedding. I never saw it as a problem.</div>
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  • MonsterNessaMonsterNessa
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    A person shouldn't be a bridesmaid just so they can receive a gift, end of story. A person is supposed to be your bridesmaid because they love and support you. I wasn't expecting a gift when I was my best friends maid of honor, which was probably for the best as I was completely allergic to the bath sets she gifted. I did appreciate the thought, however.

    That said, if you want to give your bridesmaids a gift, I don't think that paying for shoes and such qualifies. That's just a wedding expense.
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  • Missdarby5Missdarby5 member
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    Check out www.darbystouch.com for bridal party pampering. The owner is really nice and it's amazing to have a little get together for the girls that are working overtime to support you. You benefit too of course but it's fun and they don't have to do anything! :)
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  • Blue_BirdBlue_Bird member
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    You're correct in thinking you should get them real gifts. They deserve something for taking the time and expense to participate in your wedding, and something they must wear for your wedding isn't a gift. Think about their tastes and interests and buy/make accordingly. You don't have to spend a fortune. One idea is to give them each gift card to their favorite stores wrapped up in a pretty way, along with a personal note of thanks and appreciation for their friendship.
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