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HELP with "Will you be my bridesmaid" needed!!!

I got some very nice "Will you be my bridesmaid?" cards from Etsy.  I am asking my fiance's sister (who I have met once) and cousin (who I have never met) to be bridesmaids.  They both live out of state.

I can't figure out what to write on the cards!  I've gotten as far "We would be honored if you could be a part of our day."  What else do I say?  And how do I say "let me know if you accept" in an eloquent way?

Re: HELP with "Will you be my bridesmaid" needed!!!

  • edited December 2011
    Do you really need to say anything?  I think the card should just be a sweet way of announcing to your close friends that you want to include them in your day.  I'm not sure there is really an eloquent way to ask for an RSVP for this type of thing, but maybe other Knotties have some clever ideas (they always seem too :)).  

    Your close friends I'm sure will be very excited and will contact you I would think (or in the case of your FSIL you can get word through your fiance and his family).  This does bring me to a question though -  if you've never even met your cousin why do you need to ask her to be your bridesmaid??
  • Jo&Lo83Jo&Lo83 member
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    edited December 2011
    Not sure if you are looking for something extremely personal - but I did a poem to each one - I found them off this website, I thought they were super cute!!
    http://www.projectwedding.com/post/list/help-will-you-be-my-bridesmaid-poems?page=2
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  • edited December 2011
    I think since you have a question, you don't need to ask for a response.  it should be common courtsey to respond to questions you're asked.  if you don't talk to them often, just be sure they have your number/e-mail/address.

    I did 'will you be my bridesmaids cards' too all my bridesmaids (4/5 live out of town). i sent a bouquet of flowers from their local florist.   most of my bridesmaids called with excitement over the card and bouquet and wanted to say yes and thank you for the flowers.
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  • edited December 2011
    I did a lame, cutesy card that said "Something old, Something New, Something Borrowed, something...." and on the inside just said " you?" Super lame, but they loved it.  I don't really understand sending flowers and stuff like that, to be honest.  

    (I obviously talked to my three BM/MOH in person about it too.)
  • edited December 2011
    I wouldn't say anything specific about "RSVP-ing." Just write in your e-mail or phone at the bottom of the note and they'll know what to do. Or you could add in at personal note saying something along the lines of "I look forward to getting to know you better as I get ready to officially join your family! Here's my contact info. We should chat/get together sometime!" I would try to extend some sort of invitation to get to know each other along with the offer to be a bridesmaid. The more you've talked to them, the more comfortable you'll be, which will make it ten times easier when you're trying to figure out details and dresses.
  • edited December 2011
    AshP, I did what you suggested.  I put "I am looking forward to being your new sister/cousin and I would love for you to be a part of our wedding!  WIll you be my junior BM/BM?"  I am friends with the sister on facebook, figure she will contact me through that, the cousin is only 12 so I did put my email for her or her parents to respond. 

    BTW, I am including my fiance's cousin as a junior BM even though I haven't met her because the junior groomsman is from my side.

    Thanks for your help!
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