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How Formal? Invitation Addresses

jennifer80808jennifer80808 member
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How formal were you with your invitation addresses?  I'm driving myself crazy over Mr and Mrs, nicknames or no, knowing how FI's manager spells her crazy kid's name, etc.  Did you strictly follow etiquette or sway from it?
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    jen812jen812 member
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    edited December 2011
    How formal is your wedding?  If it's more casual, then I think you can bend the etiquette rules a bit.  Our guest list wasn't too tricky.
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    ufsweetiebearufsweetiebear member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm strictly traditional. However, I'm having a semi-formal wedding. If yours is more casual, by all means relax a bit but I wouldn't do nicknames. I would want people to take the invitation seriously.
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    corstinkcorstink member
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    edited December 2011

    If i didn't know how to address the person I would just use their last name...Mr. so and so...

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    jennifer80808jennifer80808 member
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    edited December 2011
    I wasn't meaning like true nicknames...I'm just stuck on a few.  We don't know for sure if "Tony" is Anthony or if "Vinnie" is truly Vincent.  

    The wedding isn't really formal at all - it's a big wedding but we are NOT formal people by any means.  The only time I've ever noticed an invitation no no was when my BFF of 20 years sent me an invite that said "and guest" and FI and I had been together 6 years and living together 5 years! 
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    cjohnsen2010cjohnsen2010
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    edited December 2011
    I'm going with the old standard and I think is the safest.

    Outside
    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
    Inside
    Mr. and Mrs. Smith

    with children
    Outside
    Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
    Inside
    Mr. and Mrs. Smith
    Susie and Samantha

    I'm dealing with a lady at Crane's and I'm just doing what she tells me.Smile
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    dogluver315dogluver315 member
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    edited December 2011
    Our wedding was formal and I went with the traditional addresses.  The PP listed it out in an easy format.  Just make sure you put children in order of oldest to youngest on the inside envelope.  If you have any doctors, be sure to make that distinction.

    A great website is Elaine's Bridal Boutique in Bradenton.  She has a section for invites and it listes every possible way to write an invite properly with every situation.
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    JulieNFloJulieNFlo
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    edited December 2011
    I followed etiquette...I figuered better to paly it safe! 
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    kellyw09kellyw09
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    edited December 2011
    Another knottie a while back suggested this website to me and I found it really helpful, maybe it will help you too.

    http://www.calligraphybycarrie.com/images/noregrets.pdf

    if that pdf link doesn't work, try this one

    http://www.calligraphybycarrie.com/ettiquette.html

    I didn't use inner envelopes, so I added children's names and/or guest to the outside envelope.

    GL
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    Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    edited December 2011
    If you are wearing a wedding dress and your groom is wearing a tux and you are having a traditional formal wedding with dinner/dance reception, then your invitations will be formal, with formal addressing on the envelope.

    If you are getting married in a white T-shirt and white shorts next to a hot air balloon like my friend Connie did, then your party invitations are casual and the envelope addressing is casual.
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