October 2012 Weddings

Shower

So, my sisters are both my MoH and are planning a shower for me that they want to be a secret. Fine by me.

 

HOWEVER – they keep complaining to me about the other bridesmaids not helping them. I explain they aren’t required to help if they aren’t hosting it. I understand they want some help – but complaining to me about things not going right with the SECRET shower they are throwing seems a bit off to me.

ALSO, my sister calls me the other day and tells me she sent out 54 invitations for the shower. Okay, so I guess my shower is any time now. Then in the mail the day after she tells me she sent the invites out, I get an invite to an open house at my aunt’s. My aunt moved in to her house 9 months ago. So, I’m pretty positive this random open house at my aunt’s is my shower because it’s a Sunday and I know my shower would be a Sunday because it works around my sisters’ work schedules best.

 

I am by no means complaining that they are throwing me a shower. Not at all. But, if you want to throw me a surprise shower, stop talking to me about it!! I shouldn’t be involved at all! I haven’t fully gone into detail about how many complaints they have sent my way (and later half apologized for complaining to me). I don’t care if I get a shower. Yea, I would be a little disappointed, but I don’t want to put any undo stress on anyone for something that isn’t required or necessary. I love my sisters til forever, but they are driving me NUTS!

 

I want to complain about my mom a little too, but I think my sister/MoH rant is enough for today!

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Re: Shower

  • ha, I think my favorite part is that they are saying it's an open house.  I honestly don't get surprise showers....they have to tell you the date....and really what is surprising about it?  The games and stuff?  I digress.  It is annoying that they are complaining to you but I think you handled it great by saying it's not the other BMs problem if they aren't co-hosting....and that you shouldn't be involved.

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  • Yeah I think it puts more stress on you when they complain to you. I'd stop them by saying ' I don't want to hear about it', when they start complaining! I'm not having a shower. At least I told my MOH not to throw me one. I know myself and I'd actually want to be involved in every aspect of it. Too much stress for me. :(
    BabyFetus Ticker
  • You need to gently put your foot down on the complaining because it is ruining your shower.  As soon as they start complaining, change the subject. 

    If you snarky like me I'd say to them during a frustrated moment something like "you know, you are ruining the open house, I mean bridal shower with all this complaining."  

    But that is mean and a good bride and sister should probably fake it through the shower and then during wedding debriefing tease them about it (if you have that kind of relationship). 


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  • I've been running into these problems with other aspects of planning, like the bachelorette party.  The bridesmaids tell me I "can't know anything" yet run to me with the least bit of drama to complain about the others!  I finally said listen...tell me EVERYTHING, or tell me NOTHING.  I dont want to hear about these little dramatic details!
    Anniversary
  • see if i were you i would rsvp no to the "open house" Ha ha ha that would freak them out so bad esp if they already mailed invites out lol --- i know when mine is because i work weekends so i had to know when it was so i could take off! my sister actually asked for "a  nice "picture of us to put on our invite so i sent her one with the warp image thing on my computer it was super funny looking!
  • I am in a similar situation where my cousins are my bridesmaids and are planning the shower for me.  Funny is I am the one that has to fly to it so they need to tell me but apparently it is suppose to be a surprise.  My mom agrees with me that I need to know when so I can budget being as I am currently not working.  The thing is the bride needs to know she is the reason for the occasion people.


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