Who's paying? (/paid?)

hz80408 · October 2011

If you're willing to share (you dont have to post dollar amounts), but how are you working out the financing of your wedding and/or honeymoon?

darkmasweet · October 2011

I moved from Mexico, but with all my savings i paid half of the entire wedding cost, the rest was on him, but we received help from our parents too. But like i said, pretty much was 50/50.

hz80408 · October 2011

Ours was kind of traditonal; my parents said they'd give X amount; then after we started making a guest list and stuff, I looked at my budget to decide how much I could afford to save. From that I had my total budget but there were some things that IL's offered to pay for: alcohol, DJ (with my budget, we weren't going to have one, glad we ended up getting on) and shuttles (MIL is OCD worrier about H's friends drunk driving). H saved for and paid for the HM himself

ETA: It ended up working out that I paid about 40% of wedding; both sets of parents paid 20%.

fashionx · October 2011

My FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. His dad and step-mom are paying and hosting our rehearsal dinner, and his grandparents paid for our airfare for our honeymoon. My parents have given a little bit of money but less than $2,000 total, so really the majority is coming from FI and myself.

kellycatalo · October 2011

my dad is very generously paying for the wedding. i am very lucky to be an only child.

my fiance's parents have offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner. i am hoping to keep it relaxed so it is not too expensive. i am very grateful for their offer.

my mom has offered to pay for the flowers for our wedding (i'm not sure why, but she told me thats what she wants to do), so I guess I will take that out of the budget my dad gave me.

my fiance and i will pay for our honeymoon (and the obvious things like rings, bridal party gifts, hair & makeup, etc).

i am extremely grateful, both sets of parents are extremely generous. I am still trying to think of how to thank them properly.

barbbhoww · October 2011

My mom gave us X amount and my dad gave us X amount...we paid the rest.

MrsMLRB · October 2011

My parents gave us X amount when we got engaged, his parents matched that amount and then I contributed X amount on my own (with a little help from H but he was a student at the time).

aimers1525 · October 2011

My parents paid for everything related to the ceremony, reception, invites, photographer, and flowers. They also bought my dress for my bday.

IL's paid for the limo and rehersal dinner.

DH and I paid for random stuff like postage for our invites, TY cards, our rings, save the dates and DIY stuff. I paid for my make up, hair, shoes, dress alterations, bridal party gifts, etc. DH paid for his tux, my ering, gifts. We luckily got five free nights for our HM and then paid for the rest ourselves.

Scarlet Starlet 31 · October 2011

We're paying for it ourselves. This is a remarriage for each of us and we didn't want to ask our parents for help.
We ran into some financial nightmares earlier this year and our method of funding fell through. My FI contributed about $2k but I'm paying the other $8k from a loan from my 401k. Not the smartest thing to do, but there is no other way we could have done it.

mbody · October 2011

My parents are paying for the entire wedding: Venue, DJ, Photographer, Florist, Dress, Shuttle ect. They are also paying for our bridal shower.

Not sure yet who will pay for the rehearsal dinner- trying to keep that low key and not too expensive.

My fiance is paying for our honeymoon.

hboo2011 · October 2011

My parents offered x amount right when we got engaged. That went into a new 'wedding checking account'. Once that started to run low, H and I each put in equal amounts to cover the rest of what we needed.

It actually ended up that my parents paid for half, and then H and I split the other half evenly.

*this is including everything from dress to music to ceremony to shoes to bridal party favors to flowers, everything wedding related.

Honeymoon- We got married last month, and are leaving in 6 weeks, so the $ we got from guests will go towards our honeymoon.

jsquared62009 · October 2011

Seems like mine is pretty common with what people have been saying. FILs paying for rehearsal and gave X amount towards reception. My mom gave X amount. Then I started looking at those amounts and made a budget. When it all adds up I'm paying for almost half myself.

brittanyjterrell · October 2011

Wow, you guys are so lucky! FILs are not paying for anything and barely even RSVP'd. FI & I went half & half for everything (venue, hotel, DJ, photography, flowers, etc) with my grandmother who has been very generous throughout this entire process.

CASK85 · October 2011

For us it will turn out to be about 1/3 from his parents and then 2/3 from us and my mom contributed a little bit.

swiatekbride · October 2011

My Dad is paying for most of it. My mom wants to buy my dress and my flowers. She's also picking up the tab for alot of extras. She bought my aisle runner and is giving me money for some DIYs I'm doing. Otherwise we're paying for the typical things like gifts ect and the honeymoon to Italy which we wouldn't be able to do if we didn't have all the help.

MrsPaps · October 2011

My parents gave us X amount at the beginning and FI's mom gave us X amount. We then determined what we needed to contribute to have the wedding we wanted. In the end it was probably 30% us, 40% my parents, 10% FI's dad and 20% FIs mom.
The Honeymoon was paid for by us and my dress was bought using money I inherited from my grandparents.

doctorlovesvintage · October 2011

I might be the oddball but I received inheritance from a great aunt and that covered most of it.

hz80408 · October 2011

Aw, I like those that had specific funding for their dresses; that's sweet :O)

I definitely am blessed to have generous IL's! (and parents)

bellaluna290 · October 2011

FI and I are paying for everything ourselves--except for my dress and veil. It's definitely been a challenge because I just got out of grad school, but I don't mind waiting a bit longer to have the wedding that FI and I want to have,

BetsyGIles19 · October 2011

Both sets of parents are being as generous as they can be but it doesn't look like they will be able to help at all with our honeymoon. So I ended up starting my own business with the Pampered Chef! I'd been thinking about doing it anyways and I've been earning a lot towards our honeymoon. I just wish travelling wasn't so darn expensive!

mspetitebride · October 2011

The Fiance & I have been saving an exact amount each pay period and plan to pay 90% of the reception & ceremony costs.

My FIL's are hosting/paying for our Bridal Shower, Rehearsal dinner, and DJ (thank god!)

Since I knew my family could not contribute to $$..I was hoping for a low-key simple under 10 grand wedding .....but my Fiance wanted a more traditional wedding...:-)

aldurbin11 · October 2011

My Parents, had given my sister a set amount of money for her wedding a few years ago, and they offered to give me and my fiance the same amount.

We then asked his parents if they would be willing to contribute anything/be will to pay for any specific item on our budget list, and his parents offered to give us the same amoutn my parents did!

But it cames dow nto, is his parents are paying for the reception venue, dinner, and the alcohol!

jennyfe43 · October 2011

My parents are giving X amount and his parents are footing the rest for the wedding. It will probably end up being 2/3 my parents, 1/3 his parents. We will be paying for the honeymoon.

We realize we are very lucky in not having to pay for much!

jbenbe28 · October 2011

FI and I are paying for everything ourselves. My parents mentioned that they want to pay for the open bar but, knowing their financial situation, we're kinda ignoring the offer.

jjpgmm · October 2011

In the interest of helping everyone, I will give some dollar amounts. I am having a smaller-than-average wedding in downtown Chicago - approx. 100 guests total including the bridal party. My mom and step-dad contributed $15,000 to our wedding costs, my dad and step-mom $10,000 (caterer bill and furniture rentals), and my in-laws are contributing approximately $2,500 (paying for the liquor for the open bar). Unfortunately, having a wedding in Chicago is not cheap, so I will be using $10,000 from my savings to pay the rest of the balance for the wedding, honeymoon, bridesmaids gifts, etc. I had no intention spending what we are as my initial plan was supposed to spend $20k TOTAL.

PM me if you want to see where the breakdown of a lot of the costs.

HandBanana · October 2011

My parents paid for my dress. It is a bit of a family tradition. My parents also paid for our invites. It is kind of odd how it happened. I found the ones I wanted on clearance at Michaels. I needed more packages though. I asked my dad to check at the Michaels near his work. He found them, bought them, and refused compensation. My mom later told me that he often talked about wishing he could pay for the wedding and that he wanted to help as much as they could.

ILs paid for and hosted the RD.

We paid for everything else. No loans but we did use a credit card for a few purchases. We used the credit card because I wanted a big financial cushion in case we had something happen.

skybrie · October 2011

We sat everyone down in the beginning and asked what they were comfortable contributing. So we set the guest list first and then asked for a set dollar amount. FIL gave us 25% My Mom did 35% and my Dad did 40%

From there I worked out a budget and determined what was most important. If we go over its out of our pocket. We will probably end up not paying for our wedding - but we will be paying for our honeymoon

trambam · October 2011

My fiance and I are both Vietnamese. In Vietnamese culture, the groom's side usually pays for the entire wedding. However, this is not the case in our situation. My fiance and I are paying for the wedding ourselves with no help from our families.

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