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Bachelorette Party Question - Friend wants to invite one of her friends to my Bachelorette

Hi ladies!

My bachelorette party is in less than 3 days, and I have a dilemma. One of my friends (let's call her M) who is invited to my small bachelorette party, has asked if she could bring along one of her friends. M's friend is a very close of hers, but I barely know her (seen her 1 time in the past 8 years, and do not communicate with her). M's friend is not coming to the wedding, and I feel strange inviting someone I don't really know to such a personal event, especially since she won't be attending the wedding, and since it doesn't seem fair to the other girls attending. I am worried that maybe my brain is tricking me though, and I need advice. Should I invite M's friend? If yes, how can I invite her so that it's not weird to the others or her? If no, what's the best way to let her down?

Thanks, Ladies!! =)
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Re: Bachelorette Party Question - Friend wants to invite one of her friends to my Bachelorette

  • Who is hosting/organizing the bachlorette party? I would tell your friend to discuss it with the host.
    Honestly, I would feel weird about it, too. Why is your friend insisting on bringing along some random girl?
    I mean, it could end up being the more the merrier, so this could be a good thing.
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  • Thanks for the advice, ladies! I will definitely need to talk to my MOH about that. Maybe she can help me with the answer since she is in charge of the event.

    In regards to the questions: My MOH (who does not know M) will be hosting the shower, and allowing us to crash at her apartment. It's going to be dinner with about 5 of us, a few activities, and brunch the next morning. All the girls coming do not know each other (they are my closest friends from different past groups - work, school, etc.), so they will all be in the same boat. M and her friend are attached at the hip and always seem to do everything together. I only know her friend from the brief meeting we had once. I do worry that other good friends who couldn't be invited due to keeping it intimate may be insulted or disappointed if someone I don't know attending instead. But, I don't want to commit an ettiquette faux pas or be unfriendly. =)
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  • This random friend shouldn't really be invited as only wedding guests should come to pre-wedding parties. Since this is a small bacheloratte party, it would be very strange for her to be there. Have the MOH explain to your friend that it is a small party & they are crashing at her house, so unfortunately no.

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  • M's friend shouldn't be invited. Especially since it's a small, intimate get-together.
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  • Definitely talk with the host; it's totally weird for randoms to be at your bachelorette.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_bachelorette-party-question-friend-wants-invite-one-of-her-friends-bachelorette?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:5cfd3ee8-8703-4ab1-a474-0d7380541518Post:438be7a3-5abb-407a-a0a9-cbf218ffac13">Re: Bachelorette Party Question - Friend wants to invite one of her friends to my Bachelorette</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks for the advice, ladies! I will definitely need to talk to my MOH about that. Maybe she can help me with the answer since she is in charge of the event. In regards to the questions: My MOH (who does not know M) will be hosting the shower, and allowing us to crash at her apartment. It's going to be dinner with about 5 of us, a few activities, and brunch the next morning. All the girls coming do not know each other (they are my closest friends from different past groups - work, school, etc.), so they will all be in the same boat. <strong>M and her friend are attached at the hip and always seem to do everything together.</strong>
    Posted by starznangelz[/QUOTE]

    That's strange.  Can't she grow up a bit and do something w/o her friend? 

    I wonder if you're going to get a call about possibly squeezing M's friend onto the wedding guest list! 
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  • Thanks everyone for your help! One less thing to stress about now... Your advice worked great. =)
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