Changing the date-a bit sad but budget is so much better! Hugs???

crazynlove2011 · August 2011

So yesterday my boyfriend and I made the decision to move back our elopement. We were planning on eloping in January with his kids (10 and 17). It was going to be a whirlwind trip flying in late Friday, marrying on Sat, and leaving out at 6 am on Sunday. We were trying to work around both my healthcare jobs, his full time job and his full time college schedule as well as the kids' school schedule. The stress of it with financial cost of a wedding and his final semesters of school were weighing heavily on me and him both. Plus our plan had no wiggle room in case of bad weather which is very possible in January when you are flying from Detroit. I was so stressed that a delayed flight would happen!

So we decided to elope in August of next year. It's a bit sad but makes so much more sense. We will be able to actually enjoy the wedding. Granted it will be hot! My boyfriend really wanted to properly ask me and my grandfather for my hand(though he just told me how much it bothered him that he hadn't) but with the original plan due to his work and school schedule and grandpa living 6+ hours away, he wasn't going to be able to but now he can. Plus, even though we are a very untraditional couple being older (me 30s, him 40s) and it being a second marriage for us, apparently he really wants to do it the old fashion way of properly asking me. So I have to admire that and happy he vocalized that to me. He will be completely done with nursing school and have taken his nursing boards by August so there will be no stress from that. Plus we will be renting an amazing house (a wow house) since the budget has now drastically gotten bigger-well over 4 times bigger and that is amazing!!! Having a budget so much bigger gives me the freedom to have a wonderful wedding week with shows, a wedding where I want, more pictures, etc!! So it is all a good thing but sad that we are moving it back.

January2012Bride · August 2011

This sounds like it's a better plan for you now!! Congrats and I hope everything turns out great for the both of you!!!!

I love the whole asking your grandfather for your hand...my fiancee asked my dad and I thought that was the nicest thing!!

mikkiwin8 · August 2011

Congrats! Sounds like everything is working out perfectly! Now you can enjoy the wedding and not be thinking about travel the whole time.
I agree with PP, I was soooo glad my FI asked for my dads blessing!

MeatAuditor · August 2011

It sounds like you'll have less regrets later this way. When you look back at your wedding later, what would you wish was different?

Even though it's further out, you will really enjoy it so much more. Time flies when you're planning a wedding, so it will still get here quickly. January might be a little hard for you, but remember that either way you guys are getting married! Waiting will be worth it.

crazynlove2011 · August 2011

Yes, after thinking it over for a day, I am glad we are waiting. Thanks everyone. Mikki and January, my grandfather actually walked me part of the way down the aisle when I got married at 21. My father did walk me the rest of the way but due to religious issues (I left their religion and became Catholic) my father and I no longer have a relationship. However, my grandfather and I are still incredibly close-we talk three plus times a weel. My grandma was my best friend and when she died three years ago, my grandfather has stepped into that role.Granted, he has always been a huge part of my life and I actually lived with them while in nursing school. This was a man who went into a Hallmark store for the first time at the age of 83 and bought me 7 of the same cards so he could send me a card for weeks on end because I had just lost a baby and then his wife, my best friend had died. This man is literally the epitome of a father, grandfather and best friend...all in one. I am soooo lucky to have him and this way, we will actually pay for his flight and I will travel to him and fly out with him. This makes me soooooo happy! (Actually tearing up right now)

Anyway, Meat, you're right-the important thing is we are getting married and a year ago, this was not even discussed. My boyfriend has been seriously burned by ex-wife so for there to be a marriage and wedding is pretty amazing in itself. He has spent over $40,000 in lawyer fees to just see his daughter so you can imagine he was never keen on the idea until this last year. We have been through so much and yet still there for each other and in the end, that's all that matters.

Thanks ladies for listening to me. Now off to find a new venue with the new budget!!

Changing the date-a bit sad but budget is so much better! Hugs???

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