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Small Church issue.... but I'm still breathing

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Hello ladies,

This past Sunday, my FI and I had a bit of a blow. We have already chosen our chuch and pastor for our wedding.  We were so dedicated to having our wedding there that the Pastor went through great lengths to offer seating arrangement ideas to fit our 182 guests comfortably. This past Sunday during the sermon, our pastor told the congregation that she was leaving the ministry! My FI looked at me in horor and said " Whose going to marry us now?" I was shocked, and of course saddened by this news. We love our church family very much and we were looking forward to being married by someone who knows us so and our families so well, but with this new obstacle, I am not sure how to proceed. Do I stick it out and deal with the new pastor... (whenever the ministry gets around to appointing one) or do I just uproot and start over again and choose another venue?  HELP!
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Re: Small Church issue.... but I'm still breathing

  • JayElleJayCeeJayElleJayCee member
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    edited December 2011
    OH NO! :(    I'm so sorry. Is your pastor planning on moving to a new church nearby? Or is she leaving the ministry for good? If so you could always follow her. Or you don't mind getting married somewhere that is not a church you could still have her hold the ceremony. If you are set on being married in a church or specifically - your church keep in mind that you do have a year left which could be plenty of time to get to know and love your new pastor. No matter what, just keep your sights on your FI and remember that no matter who does it, the end result will be the same in a sense.. you are marrying your best friend! Everything happens for a reason and from the hiccups I had in my planning process, I know to be true that everything works out exactly as it should!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User]
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    edited December 2011

    Yes she is leaving the ministry for good :(  I guess we can wait and see who takes her place. Good thing is our wedding will remain on the church calendar so whoever takes over will know its there... I guess it will just take some getting used to.... I HATE CHANGE! :) LOL

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  • Ms.BriarRoseMs.BriarRose
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    edited December 2011
    You have a long while to go until your wedding day.  While this may seem like a big blow now, because you have such a while to go, I would not worry so much about it.  Depending on your denomination, it may take a little bit to get someone into place at the church, but either way, you will get to know the interim pastor or the new pastor, and one of them will marry you if need be. 

    I know it seems tough, but breathe.  I promise it will work out.  God has a way of doing things in His time, for a reason that He knows is the best.
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  • nancyrnancyr member
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    edited December 2011
    Depends if you definitely want a church wedding, she might still be able to marry you just at a different location.  Maybe another local church would oblige. I know many of the PA churches need money enough that they often hold services there that are not the same denomination or even that have someone who is not a minister at a local church but who is affiliated with one of the online churches/ministries.  Not sure what the deal is in DE though.  Some places in PA will let you do it, some not.  I know Delaware County PA is a problem because they don't want to issue the liscense unless you are a Quaker.
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