Cake for us, dessert for them?

daniandron · September 2011

So my catering package includes 3 desserts (fruit salad, ice cream and mango/pineapple cheesecake). Neither FI nor I is very big on sweets or cake. While I do like the idea of cake-cutting in photos, for budgetary reasons I wouldn't mind skipping it altogether. My mom, who of course is not contributing to this cake, insists my wedding will be utterly tacky without one.

I thought about using the cheesecake already included in our catering package as a cake we'd cut but the caterer insists that his desserts are not presentation-style and suggested just getting a one-tier cake (from a separate baker) to cut for ourselves and feed our 50 guests the regular dessert. Is this rude? Would you be offended if you weren't offered any of the wedding cake, even with other options available?

Allycat11 · September 2011

I would not cut a cake just to have it for pictures but not actually serve it to your guests.
Having a different dessert other than cake= Not rude.
Cutting a cake just for the "photo-op" and not letting guests eat it= Rude.

It sounds like you really don't even want the cake, so skip it

jeberes08 · September 2011

Forget the cake all together. You can still do 'cake' photos- serving eachother or whatever, with other desserts. I'd be kind of upset if I saw you and your husband eating cake and I wasn't offered any. - The mango/pineapple cheesecake sounds amazing!!

leogirl13 · September 2011

I vote a or c. Either get enough cake for everone or skip it.

As far as your caterer's cheesecake not being presentation style/quality....they are serving it to guests so it should be presentation style/quailty. I would really question that.

NOLAbridealmost · September 2011

I'd get enough cake for everyone and ask the venue to scrap the desserts and do extra hors d'oeuvres or an upgraded entree instead. I'm like you and your FI: not huge on sweets. But I do enjoy cake and I think cake is generally more crowd pleasing than alternative desserts.

morenachica110 · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_cake-dessert-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:f2c8916f-5e22-49a3-af9a-2517c3f8abd9Post:9b806996-8861-4261-9e85-8ea59473a22a">Re: Cake for us, dessert for them?</a>:
[QUOTE]I vote a or c. Either get enough cake for everone or skip it. <strong>As far as your caterer's cheesecake not being presentation style/quality....they are serving it to guests so it should be presentation style/quailty. I would really question that.</strong>
Posted by leogirl13[/QUOTE]

<div>I was assuming it would be like a sheet cake. Nice to eat and looks fine cut up, but no one wants to display it.</div><div>
</div><div>Will the caterer cost the cost if you cut their desserts? I don't consider fruit salad a dessert (lol!), weird about dairy, and don't like tropical stuff =/ All that just seems like a weird mix of stuff to me. Cake is always a crowd pleaser (and usually expected so people won't be bummed). You can get a nice cake that serves 50 people for a decent price. I'd look into cutting the cake or cutting the other desserts.</div>

teresahitt · September 2011

This is what we are doing, neither of us really like cake, We prefer pie. So we will have a not small cake but not huge, enough (20 person cake) that we can have that photo op and if someone wants a piece of cake that can happen to. I have been to many weddings were the person takes one bite of the cake and either doesnt like it or the icing is to sweet and that 400.00+ cake goes in the trash. I want an assortment of pies, brownies, with a little bit of cake. There is my two sence for what it is worth. Not serving cake is not rude!!

Simply Fated · September 2011

A or C. If you cut a cake and not serve, it sort of defeats the purpose of having a cake at your wedding.

You can request a small, presentable cheesecake to cut for the pictures, and then the staff can just cut up the sheet cake in the back. this way the guests get to eat what they've seen being cut. You could do that with the ice cream and fruit salad, too.

It isn't tacky not to have cake, but it is rude to consume foods and drinks in front of your guests and not have the same offered to them.

rascal17 · September 2011

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_food-cakes_cake-dessert-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:23Discussion:f2c8916f-5e22-49a3-af9a-2517c3f8abd9Post:9b806996-8861-4261-9e85-8ea59473a22a">Re: Cake for us, dessert for them?</a>:
[QUOTE]I vote a or c. Either get enough cake for everone or skip it. As far as your caterer's cheesecake not being presentation style/quality....they are serving it to guests so it should be presentation style/quailty. I would really question that.
Posted by leogirl13[/QUOTE]

<div>This. Everything said here is what I was going to say.</div>

cmp1986 · September 2011

Either get enough cake for all your guests or have no cake at all.

daniandron · September 2011

Thanks everyone, I'm now looking into paying the caterer extra for a "presentation-style" cheesecake that we can cut and will match the mango/pineapple cheesecake we're already having.

ShakeUpTampa · September 2011

I am only doing a 1 "tier" red velvet cheesecake I am decorating after it is bought from the cheesecake factory. We are serving though 6 mini desserts. Three are cheesecake and 3 are cupcake: red velvet, double chocolate, and vanilla/strawberry cupcakes. The cheesecake is plain ny, turtle, and raspberry swirl. We did not want to invest in a large cake as many do not want a whole slice and many hate wedding cake to begin with (ever last one I have tried that was not home made tasted like crap) Anyone is welcome to a slice of the cake we cut if they want but just like every dessert there won't be enough for everyone. Even if we make one of each for every guest (over 600pcs) some won't eat, some will eat more than one of each flavor...it is pretty unpredictable.

FaithCaitlin · September 2011

I'd get cake for everyone.

OnMyArm · October 2011

I would say make it big enough to serve as a dessert option, and get your caterer to set up a dessert table. That way, you're not being rude by not offering - you're just providing multiple options.

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