Disowned Father

Re: Disowned Father

• DodgersBride member

  

  May 2011

  You can have your grandpa walk you down the aisle. If you don't mind seeing FI before you and him can walk in together as well. Are you close to FI's dad?
   
  I would pick someone who you are close with and have a good relationship with. Don't just pick anyone because you have always envisioned someone walking you down the aisle.

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• almost-a-bride member

  

  May 2011

  Definitely don't just pick someone to have someone. I would choose your mother in your situation.

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• Beazilla member

  

  May 2011

  If you really want someone to walk you down the aisle, I'd ask your mom or your uncle. Walking yourself down the aisle or walking with your FI are both great alternatives as well.

  
  

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• [Deleted User] member

  

  May 2011

  You don't have to have anyone walk you down the aisle. What about walking alone or with your husband to be? A lot of brides are going that route today.
  
  If that doesn't work for you, I would find out if your brother can make it and either have him or your Grandpa walk with you.
  

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• nefariousmoon

  

  May 2011

  If you really always pictured a male walking you down the aisle, I would sit down with your uncle and see how he would feel about it. Your right where he may be uncomfortable becuase of it. But it could also go the flipside and have it mean the world to him to have that honor. Or as PPs have said, a grandparent or even his father if your close to them.

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• cbratthauer member

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_disowned-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:d338584d-0697-4696-b556-e32c7baa6aefPost:a550eaa6-372d-4576-b747-caa4cd8f9865">Re: Disowned Father</a>:
  [QUOTE]If you really always pictured a male walking you down the aisle, I would sit down with your uncle and see how he would feel about it. Your right where he may be uncomfortable becuase of it. <strong>But it could also go the flipside and have it mean the world to him to have that honor</strong>. Or as PPs have said, a grandparent or even his father if your close to them.
  Posted by nefariousmoon[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree with this! While it is never easy losing somebody that close to us, I think it might mean so much to him to be able to walk you down the aisle, since he can no longer walk his daughter down the aisle. Of course it also depends on how close you are to your uncle

  

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• Soon2BeMrsTing

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_disowned-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:d338584d-0697-4696-b556-e32c7baa6aefPost:a550eaa6-372d-4576-b747-caa4cd8f9865">Re: Disowned Father</a>:
  [QUOTE]If you really always pictured a male walking you down the aisle, I would sit down with your uncle and see how he would feel about it. Your right where he may be uncomfortable becuase of it. <strong>But it could also go the flipside and have it mean the world to him to have that honor.</strong> Or as PPs have said, a grandparent or even his father if your close to them.
  Posted by nefariousmoon[/QUOTE]
  
  Admittedly, my circumstances were dffierent, but the one cousin I was inseparable from all through childhood died of cancer when we were twenty.  I felt a little uneasy about engaging in wedding talk with her parents around, knowing that she had been their only daughter and that my wedding would likely be bittersweet for them.  I asked both my mother and my cousin's mother to lace me into my dress, and I think it really meant a lot to my aunt to be able to contribute something to the preparations of the day and to be close to the action. 
  
  I would ask your uncle.  He can say yes or no, but only if you give him the opportunity to do so.  He may surprise you.

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• coralee715 member

  

  May 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_disowned-father?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:d338584d-0697-4696-b556-e32c7baa6aefPost:c2801231-d4b7-4d2e-bc2b-6bb5aaa5e974">Re: Disowned Father</a>:
  [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Disowned Father : I agree with this! While it is never easy losing somebody that close to us, I think it might mean so much to him to be able to walk you down the aisle, since he can no longer walk his daughter down the aisle. Of course it also depends on how close you are to your uncle
  Posted by cbratthauer[/QUOTE]
  
  
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• Santorini2011 member

  

  May 2011

  I am in a fairly similar father situation sadly.  I, too, wanted a male figure.  It's ok to feel that way
  
  I would def ask the uncle.  It is such an awesome gesture that means something to you too.  Explain to your mother that you'd like her to have the honor of the traditional mother role, including watching you walk down the aisle to your FI.
  
  My aunt stated this dilemma best to me.  The person that walks you down the aisle should be someone who has stood by you and supported you (not financially) through the years.  This person "hands you over" to the person who will take over that role in your life. Of course, not entirely but you get the idea.

  

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• Santorini2011 member

  

  May 2011

  PM me if you ever need to vent/advice/etc.  It's a crappy situation. 

  

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• katheriner89 member

  

  May 2011

  I chose my mom, my dad is a A hole, who I'm not even inviting to the wedding. My mom has always doubled as my mom and dad. So I chose her. No questions asked, I didn't care what anyone else thought of it. I look at it this way, I'd rather honor my mother who has done everything humanly possible to help me through my life rather than ask some guy because he's a man.. that's just silly to me, sorry.

  

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