Has anyone noticed...?

DeClue82 · June 2012

I've come to notice that when I'm posting in our August Brides forum that everyone is really nice and so supportive to eachother (thank you all for that, it is sincerely appreciated!)... BUT if I post on other boards (ie: Attire, or Reception Ideas) people are kind of rude and snappy! I have almost stopped going to these other boards entirely... because while I don't mind someone having another opinion and giving suggestions, I feel like a lot of these brides are kind of mean in their responses! I don't mean to say that all of them are this way because the majority are not... but it seems that whenever I post elsewhere I get a few snarky comments... Just wanted ya'll to know that you're great!!!

Ajoyd · June 2012

Oh yes. I would suggest not posting on those boards unless you want your head bitten off.

You'll notice that a lot of those ladies are already married and still spend their days posting on TK. They think they own the boards and are happy to pounce on unsuspecting newbies for sport. I feel a little bit bad for them that they seem to have nothing better to do than cut other people down.

I post here and my local board and that's it!

BTCarolus · June 2012

Yeah, we have a post about that every once in a while. Some of the other boards are worse than others. For example, I'm on the Catholic board, and there are a couple of very, very devout Catholic girls who don't seem to realize that they can be pretty insulting to not so devout Catholics. However, everybody else is super nice and will sometimes chide others when they go out of line (and even the super religious girls' hearts are in the right place).

But the E-board...yeah, stay away if you don't have a thick, thick skin. Plus they are so self-righteous that they are blind to their rudeness, and get angry and rude when called on it. I think the most amusing is the "wedding woes" board. It is literally taken over by this group of *long* married women, who just like to hang out there and share their days with each other. But they have absolutely no patience for new brides who want to share their woes, especially if the woe is pretty bridezilla.

You should explore some of the smaller boards, if you want to find others that are welcoming. I think registering and gifts is a good board, because the people who hang out on it mostly want to give good advice on registering, household goods, etc. Since I like that stuff (closet china fanatic, here), I've been pretty happy there.

LibbyC730 · June 2012

This is the only board I post on and it took me a while to find it....after getting my behind chewed on the E-board for not being appalled by honeymoon registries. Oh well, live and learn!
I've always kind of wondered if some of those women are more kind on their wedding month boards!

i2012do · June 2012

I posted about this a few months ago- it is a nice and supportive board.Also, I think that is the reason that we don't have a MOD because we don't really need anyone to step in

I only post here and my local board, someitmes DIY

DON'T ever go to Moms and Maids ofr the E board, unless you want to feel horrid about yourself.

tkddddddddd · June 2012

Yep, that is exactly why I visit wedding bee a lot more now. Only so many times you can watch married ladies tell an unsuspecting bride that hat thing they had no idea about is totally rude and blah blah blah. It's like no one ever learned that telling someone aggressively that they're rude is kinda a joke lol

libby2483 · June 2012

I love how all of the ladies on this board are supportive and express opinions in ways that are not hurtful. It is nice that we have such a friendly environment here. Whenever I post advice in another board (which is rare, but I do occasionally), I always try to be kind, even if I don't agree with what the OP is saying/asking.

I definitely agree that sometimes people on the other boards can be very snarky and sometimes mean. I've posted on the E-board a couple of times, and people have been very helpful, but I think that is because I lurked a lot and was only asking minor etiquette questions, not something very controversial. I can understand how the "regulars" on other boards get frustrated if people ask about something that is obviously very rude or not acceptable and expect to be told it is okay, or if people ask a question that is literally identical to something that is three posts below. However, I agree that it is certainly not necessary to repond in a way that is rude or belittling.

iriscarmendiaz · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2012-weddings_has-anyone-noticed?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:1fb748ee-7a4e-40eb-b4b4-e553486f4cacDiscussion:05413e29-9b2c-4e1e-acd7-744a4c673be0Post:83b3c621-a6a2-44c8-8bc2-5e7fe7c01060">Has anyone noticed...?</a>:
[QUOTE]I've come to notice that when I'm posting in our August Brides forum that everyone is really nice and so supportive to eachother (thank you all for that, it is sincerely appreciated!)... BUT if I post on other boards (ie: Attire, or Reception Ideas) people are kind of rude and snappy! I have almost stopped going to these other boards entirely... because while I don't mind someone having another opinion and giving suggestions, I feel like a lot of these brides are kind of mean in their responses! I don't mean to say that all of them are this way because the majority are not... but it seems that whenever I post elsewhere I get a few snarky comments... Just wanted ya'll to know that you're great!!!
Posted by DeClue82[/QUOTE]

I agree, a lot of them are pretty rude and insulting and extremely opinionated.

But I'm glad we have a place to go to just walk or vent without being insulted for the wedding choices we've already made and can't/won't change.

rgomez27941 · June 2012

You are so right! Everyone on the August board is so nice while the other boards are so negative and rude.

Sunshine811 · June 2012

I refuse to post on any other boards. I think that the Knot has a serious issue with cyber bullying! The ladies are awful! I like what PP said about their lives being sad, I totally agree. I love TK now, but after I'm married I really don't think I'll spend more time here...

unicorntrees · June 2012

I have definitely voiced in previous posts about this how nice everyone on this board is. Mtishawt, I think you really nailed it when you said that some brides come looking for validation. I think it's that mindset that sparks things at times.

I mostly post here. I post a few things here and there on my local board and the DIY board. I think I posted on the E board once. I only post on other boards when something arises, but even then I just post the question here, lol. I posted a draft of my invites a while ago on the Invites board, and even then I got a few snippy responses because our wording was too casual for some. Oddly enough, that was why I posted the draft there because I knew the responses would be brutally honest! Some ladies were really nice about it, though.

I've always wondered: how do mods get assigned to the boards and how did we end up without one?

BTCarolus · June 2012

MT: you probably won't see this 'cause this thread is way down the page, but: that is super interesting. Both how it happens, and that we don't have any complaints. I had assumed that the month boards tend to just be nicer because the girls on each all get to know each other and have the same issues naturally. But then I checked around and it seems like every single other board does have a mod. I guess, in the words of the snark queens on E, we are special snowflakes.

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