I don't want to walk down the aisle alone! Am I the only one?

RDavis61 · April 2011

My fiance and I are just getting around to dicussing the actual ceremony. About a week ago, I realized that Jewish weddings typically have a different processional from Christian weddings. Neither of us are religious, but my family is traditionally Jewish, so I kind of like the idea of walking down with a pair of supporters (even if it is not my parents, as it would be in a traditional Jewish wedding.)

My fiance doesn't want to walk me down the aisle--even though I know that would be my preference. I just feel like I would be extremely self-concious walking, extremely slowly, with all eyes on me. I am by NO means of the imagination a shrinking violet, but I do not like that idea!

My second idea would be to have my MoH and only BM to walk me down the aisle; if not arm-in-arm with me, then directly behind me for moral support. My mother pointed out that this will need a very wide aisle. Am I crazy for considering walking with someone not in my family? We are not a traditional couple, having an outdoor civil ceremony in a lush garden with a small guest list.

Does anyone have any other, alternative ideas for me walking down the aisle? Any encouragement for my idea(s) would also be appreciated!

[Deleted User] · April 2011

It is perfectly fine to walk down the aisle with your husband to be. I believe it is actually quite common for Jewish ceremonies.

vexie · April 2011

This is my second wedding so I didn't feel comfortable asking my father to 'give me away' a second time

however I also didn't walk to walk down the isle alone. What we're doing instead.... I'll come in alone and walk approx half way up the isle, stop and then at that point my FI will walk back down the isle to meet me, take my arn and walk with me the rest of the way to the altar. Maybe you could do something like this too?

vicki0508 · April 2011

I think it would be odd to have your attendants walk behind you. But it doesn't really matter if people think it's weird, so you can certainly do it if you'd like.

RDavis61 · April 2011

I like the idea of him meeting me halfway (literally!) and it might seem more amenable to him, as well. It did occur to me that certain photo opportunities of my train might be inhibited by the girls walking behind me. That's not even considering that my dress has a fuller skirt, so it would be hard for them to walk beside me without altering its shape.

Thank you for the advice!

FaithCaitlin · April 2011

I love the idea of him meeting you half way. I think it's a good compromise!

RDavis61 · April 2011

FI likes the idea of meeting me halfway--we've found a good compromise! Thank you guys for your help!

-Rachel

vexie · April 2011

I'm so glad that he agreed! We're really excited about walking half way together too (our photographer actually gave us the idea... but she said to make sure that he doesn't start moving until I've stopped mid-way so she can get pictures of me walking alone without his back in the pictures)

I don't want to walk down the aisle alone! Am I the only one?

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