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Carson386 · August 2012

I have a queston about a bridal shower, My MOH and BMs are already asking for a list of potentional people for the shower so they can find an approprite place to have the shower. They said I can invite up to 70 people (that's definitely not going to happen). I donn't actually know who to invite. There are the obvious people- aunts, cousins, siblings, cloes friends... but my mom also has her friends on my guest list, do I invite them to the shower? I know them but I don't really talk to them. Also, I work with 2 men that are invited to the wedding with their wives, I know the wives but I'm not really close with them- do I invite them?

Matty143 · August 2012

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[QUOTE]I have a queston about a bridal shower, My MOH and BMs are already asking for a list of potentional people for the shower so they can find an approprite place to have the shower. They said I can invite up to 70 people (that's definitely not going to happen). I donn't actually know who to invite. There are the obvious people- aunts, cousins, siblings, cloes friends... but my<strong> mom also has her friends on my guest list,</strong> do I invite them to the shower? I know them but I don't really talk to them. Also, I work with 2 men that are invited to the wedding with their wives,<strong> I know the wives but I'm not really close with them- do I invite them?</strong>
Posted by Carson386[/QUOTE]

A few of my Mom's close friends were invited to my shower because I've known them for so long. I think you could ask your Mom if/who she would like you to invite.
I would not invite the wives of your coworkers.

Summer2011Bride · August 2012

I would only invite people you know pretty well. Like the two wives you don't really talk to? I would not invite them. If I barely knew someone and got an invitation to their bridal shower, I would find it a little gift grabby, but maybe that's just me.

As for your mom's friends, I would personally probably not invite them to the shower and maybe just to the wedding if she wants them there if you don't personally talk to them. But if you still come in under the 70 and it's important to your mom, then I could see extending the invitation to them.

achiduck · August 2012

Generally the guest list for showers includes close family and friends. If you start getting into third cousins and people you haven't seen in years it has a tendency to look gift-grabby.

In regards to your mom's friends, have they been invovled in your life any other ways? If so it might be nice to invite them. I'd probably talk that one over with your mom.

As far as your male friend's wives I probably wouldn't if you're not close to them. I've gotten to know FI's friends wives/GFs fairly well but it's not like we hang out on our own without FI's friends there too. They were not included on my shower guest list.

Meegles4 · August 2012

I would likely not invite the co-workers wives.

My mom's friends were invited to my shower, which is fine because I've known many of them for decades. But, it was also because my mom was one of the hosts. If your mom isn't hosting, I probably wouldn't invite them unless you were really close and they were like sisters or aunts to you or something like that.

Calypso1977 · August 2012

i would give her hte list of people you want there, which shoudl be your closest female friends/relatives. then if the hosts wish to invite additional females (provided they are on the weddding guest list) then that is up to them as they are hosting//paying.

funandfreckles · August 2012

I had 80 people invited to my shower (but we have 337 on the wedding guest list). About 60 came. I kept it to aunts, cousins, friends, community members (I live in a VERY small community). As far as our parents' friends - their closest friends were invited.

DramaGeek · August 2012

My mom's closest friends actually hosted one of my showers, but I've known them my entire life and they're like aunts to me.

In my world, showers are about 20-30 people, maybe 40, and they are the people closest to the bride/groom. It's also very normal in my circle for the bride to have multiple showers - one thrown by (and attended by) the bride's family, one by the groom's family, and one by/for the friends.

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