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bouquet toss


All of my friends are either married or engaged so half the girls at the wedding will be also..instead of doing the bouquet toss to the single ladies have any of you heard of handing your bouquet to the woman that impacted your life the most & then giving a small speech?

Im seriously thinking about doing this and handing it over to my mom.

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  • Giving the bouquet to your mom sounds like a great idea.

    Another idea to consider in your situation might be an Anniversary Dance. We are probably doing this at our wedding (as well as a bouquet toss), but often it can be done in lieu of the bouquet toss.

    Here's how it usually goes if you haven't heard of it:
    DJ asks all married couples to come onto the floor to dance. Then after a few moments he asks all couples married less than 24 hours to leave the floor, then less than 1 year, 5 years, etc. until you are left with the couple married the longest. Then you can present the woman in that couple with your bouquet and you or the DJ can ask them to offer some advice on how to have a long happy marriage.

    Don't feel obligated to do the bouquet toss. Any of these things are just ways to honor people and/or marriage. HTH
  • We were in a similar position so we skipped the bouquet toss and didn't replace it with anything.  Giving your bouquet to your Mom sounds really sweet though.
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_bouquet-toss?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:d9b5f1cf-ab3b-4cea-9880-1877b811acb5Post:967ecd1e-2880-477d-b5ec-2b9040edd88d">Re: bouquet toss</a>:
    [QUOTE]Giving the bouquet to your mom sounds like a great idea. Another idea to consider in your situation might be an Anniversary Dance. We are probably doing this at our wedding (as well as a bouquet toss), but often it can be done in lieu of the bouquet toss. Here's how it usually goes if you haven't heard of it: DJ asks all married couples to come onto the floor to dance. Then after a few moments he asks all couples married less than 24 hours to leave the floor, then less than 1 year, 5 years, etc. until you are left with the couple married the longest. Then you can present the woman in that couple with your bouquet and you or the DJ can ask them to offer some advice on how to have a long happy marriage. Don't feel obligated to do the bouquet toss. Any of these things are just ways to honor people and/or marriage. HTH
    Posted by felicia6[/QUOTE]
     I love this idea!
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  • While I think it's a lovely idea, please also remember your FMIL.  I have been MOB and MOG in the last couple of years.  And I would have been touched by receiving my DD's bouquet. 

    But, if it were done publicly, I would have also been a little uncomfortable if no recognition by the groom of HIS mom was done.  I'm not sure how to alleviate that, but just putting it out there as a thought.
    "Trix, it's what they/our parents wanted. Why so judgemental? And why is your wedding date over a year and a half ago? And why do you not have a groom's name? And why have you posted over 12,000 posts? And why do you always say mean things to brides?" palegirl146
  • I LOVE felicia6's idea! 

    Giving the flowers to someone who has touched your life is a very cool idea.

    IMO bouquet tosses, garter tosses, WP only head tables, dollar dances and anything else along those lines is outdated and a bit tacky...
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  • Why not just do a bouquet toss for all the women single or otherwise. I know it is not how it is usually done but why not? I plan on tossing my bouquet as an end to the evening and to the lucky lady who catches it 'that her days may be filled with love and remind her of that first blush of love" if she is already married or engaged.
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    [QUOTE]All of my friends are either married or engaged so half the girls at the wedding will be also..instead of doing the bouquet toss to the single ladies have any of you heard of handing your bouquet to the woman that impacted your life the most & then giving a small speech? Im seriously thinking about doing this and handing it over to my mom.
    Posted by lam11[/QUOTE]

    What a great idea! It gave me goosebumps just reading it <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-smile.gif" border="0" alt="Smile" title="Smile" />
  • I would just say this is a great idea but instead of saying it's for the woman who has touched your life the most just present it to her in honor of all that she has been and done for you through out the years, just to take out the competetion element so grandma or whoever doesn't feel left out. I think everyone would expect you to say your mom but some people are weird about things.  Cool idea.
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  • :) Thanks for all the input and I agree if I say she impacted my life the most I know a handful that would be upset but still she's my mom & my best friend. & Yes I was trying to think of a way to honour my MIL because I dont want to leave her out because I'm close with her as well.
  • I honestly think that there will be about 5 single ladies, and honestly, it's a bit embarrassing past the age of about 20 to be up there.

    I'm going to invite all the ladies, single and married so come up. My toss bouquet will actually be something like a dozen roses (or whatever looks good at the grocery store) and each stem will have a ribbon on it with some kind of fortune about love, to the effect of "may your life be filled with love." The stems won't be tied together and so when I throw them, they will come apart and a dozen or so women will each get a rose with a fortune.
  • That is a great way to do it khornack!
  • way that is a GREAT way to do it! thanks for the idea
  • I was thinking about skipping the bouquet toss because there's only a few single girls at my wedding also. I was thinking about buying 1 rose for each woman who's coming and give everyone their own flower. That way no one feels left out and everyone can have something special to take with them!
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  • Thanks. Can't take credit for it though. Martha Stewart Weddings. Some of the stuff is outlandish...no I am not going to embroider 60+ napkins as a favor.
  • Your idea sounds nice, go for it.

    We opened up the bouquet and garter belt toss to everyone married or single. We then gave a gift card to the girl and guy who made the catch and had them take a picture together, instead of having the guy put the garter belt on her leg.
  • I'm not doing a bouquet toss, either, and I am going to give my bouquet to my mom. But I'm not going to give a speech about it.

  • I recently went to a wedding where it looked like the bride had a toss bouquet of roses, but when she threw them, they separated and we saw there were 6 individual roses, so 6 ladies got to keep a part of the bouquet! If you have a lot of single ladies, this might be the way to go.
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  • Oops, I misread your initial post. Sorry!
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  • i definitely love the idea of having it separate and letting a few women take home a little something with a message of love!!!
  • love the ideas on this post! i never thought twice about how the bouquet toss would go but now I'm in love with the break-apart bouquet idea, and inviting all the ladies up regardless of their status, and I love the idea of the giftcard/picture idea rather than having the garter put on the bouquet winner! 


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  • I couldn't decide myself about the bouquet toss... fun tradition or embarrassing and degrading?  So, I asked several of my closest unmarried  friends what they thought of the bouquet toss and every single one of them said something along the lines of, "well, if you want to do it, that's fine, but I'm not dying to..." which basically means, "it's embarrassing, please don't."  So, I'm gonna honor that and just skip it myself. 

    I think presenting the bouquet to your mother is a wonderful idea.  And as far as people feeling left out or slighted by not receiving that honor, that's ridiculous!  She's your mother, of course she'd be the woman who affected your life the most, it would be crazy to give it to anyone else.  
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