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Another dress regret post....

kris&mannykris&manny member
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My question is geared toward all of the married ladies and the ones who have had a dress regret. Here goes...

I am completely torn between 2 dresses. Dress #1 happens to be a designer gown for about $2100 and dress #2 is an equally pretty, but way more budget-friendly, dress from David's Bridal for about $1100. I'm leaning more toward the designer gown- go figure!- because of the way it makes me feel and the overall look is what I always envisioned so I feel emotionally attached to it. However, I keep telling myself that I would still be happy in the David's Bridal dress. . . . . If I choose the less expensive gown simply because of the price do you think I will eventually regret that I didn't choose the dress that I "really wanted"?

My fiance and I are more or less footing the bill for our wedding- with contributions from my parents- so I'm feeling guilty that I love this expensive dress! Is the dress choice really a big deal?

Y'all, I really don't know what to do!  Please help!
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    From your post, it sounds like you really want the first dress. If it is in your budget and you can afford it, I say go for it. It is your special day and you want to feel beautiful and comfortable in it.
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  • stinkerbell6879stinkerbell6879 member
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    I agree. If it won't hurt the budget and you can cut in other areas (not guest comfort but things like...expensive favors, etc.) I would get the dress. I went and tried my dress 3 times (I think??) to make sure it was the one. So take time to go try them both so you can get a good idea of EXACTLY which one. Also take someone who will be honest with you on each dress.
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  • HyperChicaPRHyperChicaPR
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    Don't settle for your dress because of price. HOWEVER, if the price is an issue, you can search sites like http://www.preownedweddingdresses.com/ for it used at a huge discount. Or sometimes they are even brand new from a bride who changed their mind.
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  • jennifer0124jennifer0124 member
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    Are you able to take pictures of both of them?  It sounds like you really want dress #1 but if ti will cause you to go WAY over budget or cause you to scrimp in other important areas I say to go with 2.

    A story to help - I went to a wedding on Saturday night - the bride had a dress that cost over 8K and they had the most horrible DJ ever.  Half of the guest list ended up leaving by 10pm because the DJ made it the most boring party ever.  I bet she could have gotten away with a 5K dress and a much better DJ.
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  • krissieallenkrissieallen
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    Check into what alterations cost... At David's Bridal I know you pay extra for them, but at other boutiques where designer dresses are sold, a lot of times the alterations are included. That ends up making a difference on overall cost, and the dresses may end up being more similar in price than you thought.
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  • jessfontjessfont member
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    From experience, I just want to say this: Don't be a 2-dress bride.  Get the one you love...find a way to pay for it.  It'll cost less than buying the DB dress and then having a change of heart because you can't stop thinking about the designer dress.
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  • awit77awit77 member
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    it sounds like you reallllly want the first one. i agree with pps. if you can squeeze it in your budget, make cuts on less important things. its your day!
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  • kmabjokmabjo member
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    My long story short: I liked two gowns. One for $560.00 and one for $1,300.00. I loved both for very different reasons, felt beautiful in both.

    I ended up getting the $560.00 because I wanted to put the rest of the money towards a hooneymoon that FI and I could both enjoy. We are both also paying for our own wedding so we are on a budget.

    I would say if you love both, get the cheaper one. That extra money could go towards a vacation, a new car, savings.

    I am not saying that your wedding is going to be cheap, I could have affored the second gown as well, but I wanted to make FI happy to. I wanted to be able to go somewhere a bit nicer for our hooneymoon sicne both of us have never really traveled anywhere.

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  • kris&mannykris&manny member
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    Thank you all so much for your comments! As it turns out- after having several sleepless nights and dress nightmares- my mom and I went to the salon to purchase the first dress, BUT when we got there I saw and fell in love with a similar and more classy dress that had arrived that very morning! And it doesn't hurt that It was half the price we had budgeted for! Needless to say, I can finally get some sleep!

    All that stress for nothing =)

    Thanks again y'all.
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