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I recently proposed to my girlfriend. I saved 10,000 for a round diamond ring. Well, apparently the diamond isn't big enough. How should I take this, do I try and get a bigger ring?
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  • smlane1223smlane1223
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    Ummmmm......did she actually SAY, "the diamond is too small"??  If so, forgive me for saying, but WHY do you want to marry this girl then?
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  • GoodLuckBear14GoodLuckBear14 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_guy-needs-girls-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:683Discussion:cc92bdac-e4b8-4f56-bb4c-c63624cc96c3Post:9861b284-8589-4601-9bc8-07cf5e6984b3">Guy needs girls' help</a>:
    [QUOTE]I recently proposed to my girlfriend. I saved 10,000 for a round diamond ring. Well, apparently the diamond isn't big enough. How should I take this, do I try and get a bigger ring?
    Posted by WhatToDo42[/QUOTE]

    No.  You walk away and thank God you found out this part of her true character before you married her.  If for some reason you do decide to go forward with the wedding, hire a good attorney to represent you in pre-nup negotiations and make sure it is signed before saying I Do.
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Guy needs girls' help : No.  You walk away and thank God you found out this part of her true character before you married her.  If for some reason you do decide to go forward with the wedding, hire a good attorney to represent you in pre-nup negotiations and make sure it is signed before saying I Do.
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    <div>Yup.</div>
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  • Summer2011BrideSummer2011Bride member
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    I think a diamond worth $10,000 is probably pretty freakin' big already. Regardless of that though, if she straight up told you it was too small, I would run away. She obviously has other priorities besides marrying you and your feelings.


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  • sexyangel925sexyangel925 member
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    edited July 2012
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_guy-needs-girls-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:cc92bdac-e4b8-4f56-bb4c-c63624cc96c3Post:e81afca7-53d5-4502-adab-f1c9935285d3">Re: Guy needs girls' help</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Guy needs girls' help : No.  You walk away and thank God you found out this part of her true character before you married her.  If for some reason you do decide to go forward with the wedding, hire a good attorney to represent you in pre-nup negotiations and make sure it is signed before saying I Do.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]

    <div>I totally agree. If this the way she acted, you're better off without her.</div>
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  • dewingedpixiedewingedpixie member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Guy needs girls' help : No.  You walk away and thank God you found out this part of her true character before you married her.  If for some reason you do decide to go forward with the wedding, hire a good attorney to represent you in pre-nup negotiations and make sure it is signed before saying I Do.
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    This! Run Now, Fast and for the Hills!
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  • charbakescharbakes
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    Sounds like you're dodging a bullet.
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  • erolliserollis member
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Guy needs girls' help : No.  You walk away and thank God you found out this part of her true character before you married her.  If for some reason you do decide to go forward with the wedding, hire a good attorney to represent you in pre-nup negotiations and make sure it is signed before saying I Do.
    Posted by GoodLuckBear14[/QUOTE]
    I don't think anyone could say it any better. Turn around and run.<div>
    </div><div>If you do call it off hopefully (but I doubt) she will give it back. In some states she is requiered by law to give it back and others she is not. </div>
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Guy needs girls' help : I don't think anyone could say it any better. Turn around and run. <strong>If you do call it off hopefully (but I doubt) she will give it back.</strong> In some states she is requiered by law to give it back and others she is not. 
    Posted by erollis[/QUOTE]

    <div>OP made it sound like she turned it down to begin with.</div>
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  • bunnyxbunnybunnyxbunny
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    If she is like this before you guys get married, chances are she won't be any better afterwards. Sounds like she won't be satisfied no matter what.

    I agree with above, run and never turn back!
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  • kikirst33kikirst33 member
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    I'm an older bride (42) and have seen many girls getting engaged where all they could talk about was how "big" the ring was.  You gf should not be basing her decision on the size.  You can spend $10,000 on a diamond and it could be 3 carats but the quality will be sh*t.  I have a beautiful ring it's not as big as those around me but it sparkles to put your eye out.  Size does not equal quality.

    If she's complaining about the size of the diamond then where do you think that will take you if you were to get married......   I think it may be best to re-evaluate your relationship with her.
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  • ChloeaghChloeagh member
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    Agree with everyone. I don't know how much my ring cost, but the stone is a $50 1/2 carat white sapphire, which is smaller than a 1/2 carat diamond. I love it, because he gave it to me, but I also would hate a large stone.

    FI says if you stay you should get her a silver ring plated in a metal that mimics gold (I don't remember what it was) with a 4 carat cubic zirconia (basically a piece of crap, he said) and see how she feels then.
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  • bunnyxbunnybunnyxbunny
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_guy-needs-girls-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:cc92bdac-e4b8-4f56-bb4c-c63624cc96c3Post:b6f1a7f8-38f3-476e-b4b7-cc3f0eff235f">Re: Guy needs girls' help</a>:
    [QUOTE]FI says if you stay you should get her a silver ring plated in a metal that mimics gold (I don't remember what it was) with a 4 carat cubic zirconia (basically a piece of crap, he said) and see how she feels then.
    Posted by Chloeagh[/QUOTE]

    Bingo! That's how it should be. The ring is secondary in your proposal. Don't think you need to get her anything more.
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  • xxjen015xxjen015
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    Absolutely don't do it. It's selfish and ridiculous. My FI had my ring for 2 1/2 years before finally proposing because he wanted to save money to put a real stone in it instead of the CZ that came in it. I insisted that the stone being real wasn't important to me, I just wanted to be able to get engaged and start our life together. 

    I'm glad I insisted on this because if we were waiting for a diamond, we probably still wouldn't be engaged, through no fault of his own. He's a recent college graduate and was working only part time until the past couple of months. I am happy with what he gave me and if that stone can never afford to be upgraded to a diamond, oh well. 

    I agree with everybody else...run, run, run. If you choose not to run, do not get her a bigger diamond, and as some other people have said pre-nup!!!
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  • jnjmommy0609jnjmommy0609 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_just-engaged-proposals_guy-needs-girls-help?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:683Discussion:cc92bdac-e4b8-4f56-bb4c-c63624cc96c3Post:9861b284-8589-4601-9bc8-07cf5e6984b3">Guy needs girls' help</a>:
    [QUOTE]I recently proposed to my girlfriend. I saved 10,000 for a round diamond ring. Well, apparently the diamond isn't big enough. How should I take this, do I try and get a bigger ring?
    Posted by WhatToDo42[/QUOTE]

    <div>You move on.</div>
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  • MiksChick23MiksChick23 member
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    That is insane! I'd say you are dodging a bullet. The ring isn't what's important, its that you want to spend your life with this person. She is obviously more concerned with the materialistic aspect, and in that case, I'd probably walk away. $10,000 buys one hell of a ring.
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    When my FI proposed to me, all I was looking at was him, well through my tears at least. He could've held anything up in that little black box but that wouldn't have changed my answer!
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    This has got to be a troll, right? I mean, I would say of the girls on TK, and my friends IRL, maybe 1% has a 10K ring.
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  • jenjlgsingsjenjlgsings member
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    This can't possibly be a real post... 

    Just the way it is worded and only one post?


    But, if it actually is real, run.  Run fast and while screaming. 


    It is really sad how much some people get caught up in how big the ring is, how much it is worth, etc. 

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  • JNV825JNV825
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    ughhh this reminds me of my sister. My fi did in fact propose with a 10,000 tacori ring, it's a sizeable diamond in a beautiful intricate band with a whole lot of stones to it and when my sister saw it the first thing out of her mouth was "well at least you get a good ring out of it, if it was anything less you should just say no."
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  • mbrischouxmbrischoux member
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    I don't know how women get away with these kinds of demands of anyone.  Honestly, I didn't care about how big the stone was...I was just glad he had the "stones" to propose.

    Anyone I've known who did something like this are either in unhappy marriages or are divorced - consider yourself lucky that you saw her true character now and not later.

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  • bearbear1bearbear1
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    My ring isn't big, it's not even a diamond (amesythst), but I still LOVE it!
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