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Invitation wording?

Sweet_AdelineSweet_Adeline member
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so I've seen a lot of examples for if we as well as both sets of parents are hosting (together with our parents, ect), but what if it's just FI and I and my parents?  I have NO clue as to how to have the wording.  Does anyone have any suggestions?
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Re: Invitation wording?

  • amandaswamandasw member
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    edited December 2011
    this may be an emotionally charged question (or maybe not), but is there any reason you want to specifically exclude his parents from the invitation wording?  I ask because I know that the go-to way of deciding how to word it is by asking who is paying, but that doesn't have to be the case - especially since so many things these days are untraditional.  IMO I think it's nice to honor both sets of parents regardless of who is paying (unless there is some bad situation).  Then again, maybe your parents would resent that since they're constributing and his aren't, etc. 

    If you like or don't mind that idea, but still want it to look like your parents may be contributing more than his, you could do:

    Mr. & Mrs. Your Parents
    request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter
    Your name
    to
    His name
    son of Mr. & Mrs. His parents

    Instead of thinking of it as a bank statement (not that you are, but I notice on TK that people get really focused on making sure the invite reflects who is funding the event), think of it as two families coming together :)
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  • amandaswamandasw member
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    edited December 2011
    **I'll add here that there are some things I've only realized now, after all the planning is over.  Confession: even when I found out his parents would help pay, I secretly didn't want their names on the invite because I didn't like how it looked, it wasn't "traditional".  Now I realize how stupid that sounds.  I'm glad all the parents were on the invite (obviously because they helped pay, but in general) and now I think parents should have a place on there regarless of who pays - they brought DH and I into the world and raised us to be people the other person loves.  So I think that adds up to a good reason whether or not they pay for that one day. I'm not naive and I realize there are some crazy/difficult family situations out there, but I just like to say my two cents to remind you (in the midst of this crazy decision-making time) to think about the long run and your relationship with his family.
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  • Sweet_AdelineSweet_Adeline member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm totally ok with including his parents on the invitation, but you're right... everything on TK screams that only those who are paying should be on the invitation and that kind of threw me off a bit.  The girls on the etiquette board are in agreement with you, btw :)
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  • amandaswamandasw member
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    edited December 2011
    well that's good to hear!  I used to be a regular on there, but the drama got to be crazy and I lost interest in TK altogether for a little while after the wedding.  Now I just like to pop in here with my local girls :)
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