We are 3 days from our RSVP date and missing over 60 people. A few days ago FI texted his friends (mainly GM we just weren't sure of their significant others) reminding them to get their RSVP in and got almost 100% of them to respond right away (with the only exception his GM who moved so never got the invite). So, I decided today to do something similar. Just a text to friends who we are casual with. We'll formally call relatives and family friends etc after the date. Well I've gotten a bridesmaid shuffling her feet about money (not surprising though, I've been waiting for her to bail honestly), another friend saying she'd call me tonight but has "bad news," and one actual RSVP. The RSVP was from a good good friend (so good that she really should be standing up for previously mentioned bridesmaid) and she and her fiance declined. She alluded it may be difficult because they are in the process of buying a house but I told her that our wedding isn't until 4:30 on a Saturday so they could fly in that morning when no bank would be doing house stuff anyways. I know rationally when people have to travel or for any reason there is no guarantee of who will attend your wedding. But, emotionally her not coming actually hurts my feelings a little. Not in a "I'm not going to speak to her" way or anything where I blame her, just in a "this sucks I wanted to share this day with her way." I don't want to sound like a brat and know I'll get married and enjoy the company of whoever can make it but without being in the setting yet, it just sucks that my friends aren't going to be there (my only friend of about 30 people to RSVP yes so far is one of my six bridesmaids). Any one else have a decline that hit them like this?