8-1=7 bm's left

A&M_Abyss · February 2011

i had to remove someone from my bridal party last night. My best friend since I was like 6yrs old at that. She has been nothing but negative towards the rest of my bridal party and consistently rude. I've known about it for quite some time and never said anything about it. The straw that broke the camels back was how she tried to come at my sister in a bm meeting yesterday in a rude and disrespectful manner.

I got home from being with my Mr last night and sat at the computer and poured my heart out to her on how i was feeling and with my decision to remove her from the equation. I'm the type of person I need to write it down send it and then have a conversation b/c I need to get it off my chest.

I feel really sad that had to happen but I know it's for the best. This woman has issues, and I think she is in a very unhappy stage ofher life that has been this way for 5yrs almost. I will be refunding her money back to her that she paid for the dress. Just sucks it had to come to this.

TNMurray · February 2011

Sorry you had to go through this

A&M_Abyss · February 2011

thx

lil01 · February 2011

Sorry you went through that. But at least you took care of it sooner rather than later. If she was starting stuff now, just imagine what could have happened during the wedding.

I lost a BM early in the game, but I also lost the friendship with her. It sucks, but people who are not genuinely happy for you during this time gotta move outta the way. Love the real friends you have & keep it moving!

A&M_Abyss · February 2011

Exactly. what would she have done with liquor in her system? It really sucks b/c she and I have gone through so much together but when you act like a B talk like a B and wanna blast your feelings on FB that just doesn't cut it for me!

it's inappropriate

shesheduke · February 2011

Awwww boo I am sorry that had to happen but I am truly happy that it happened sooner rather than later. Hopefully she will come to her senses and realize what a happy time this is for you and act accordingly so that you don't have to cut her off completely.

Thoughts and prayers going to you and smooth sailing from here on out!

prettymami2 · February 2011

Wow that does suck A&M but you have to do what you have to do for your own sanity and for the sake of what you are trying to accomplish. Now my question is, are you still going to be friends with her after this or are you shutting down the friendship just for wedding purposes?

happe2gether · February 2011

I'm really sorry to hear this. I mean this has to be one of the hardest things because y'all were girls for so long. But if this is what's in your heart then you absolutely made the right decision. And really anyone who is going to disrespect your sister, your flesh and blood, may disrepect you as well. I hope she does come around and learns from this but as the bride you don't need any negativity. I think I might have to do the same thing too and I have a LONG way to. Matter of fact, my fiance has nicknamed one of my friends FWD = friend with drama.

cincy2011 · February 2011

Sorry to hear that you had to do that, but you made the right decision.

miss2mrscj · February 2011

Sorry you had to deal this.

purplehoney · February 2011

Sorry my girl, hate u had to have some drama like that. but its already getting better.. Enjoy this time with those that truly love you.

YasJas2011 · February 2011

So sorry you had to deal with this....

Shaunta A. · February 2011

I understand how you feel. Sometimes you have to do what you have to. My best friend didn't even show up to my wedding. Her dress was made and all. I later found ou it was jealously from her sister. She told me my best friend wanted to be the first one to get married ( She wasn't even in a realationship). Her sister also told me how she cut up at another friends wedding. At the dinner table she was rude and was having outbrust of her not wedding to be at the girl wedding and how it was some bulls*&t the girl was getting married and not her. Smh...Some people you have to let go.