Ok so... I called a meeting of the minds for my wedding crew to get things moving and felt ambushed by my future MIL... I decided to come to the boards to see what other people though about what to do.
here's the story....
My FH and I have been together for 7 years, living together for 4. We also have a 2 year old daughter together. Ok... we've done things a little backwards. So at the meeting today, my MOH and my Mother were prepare to talk shower details. I'm an only child so for my mother, this is it.... she wants to do it up right, even if we've done it backwards....
And then my future MIL expresses how she feels it's tack for me to have a bridal shower which my MOH has already set aside money for and is ready to start moving on. She says it's stupid for me to have a shower and expect people to bring gifts since we've already been living together for over 4 years. And goes on and on... I'm practically in tears and it's like she doesn't even care about my mother's feelings or my feelings or anyone but her own.
Then when we started "attempting to discuss" things.... I had mentioned looking into registering for a honeymoon somewhere. She then tells me that it's a horrible idea nd people will look at me like I'm asking for hand outs.
After everyone left my MOH and mom called each other and decided they're throwing the shower regardless of her thoughts. I said that was fine...
I guess what I'm asking is ... is she right? Is it really tacky to have a shower when we've been living together. Has anyone out there had a shower even though they lived with their FH already? Did anyone out there register for a honeymoon?
Please help.... save my sanity and my tears because I'm a mess right now!