Groomzilla

monikaedwards · August 2012

Ok, maybe Groomzilla is not the correct term. But lately, when FI and I start talking about wedding stuff, vendors, etc. it ends up us bickering. I don't know if it's budget woes or what. Please tell me I'm not the only one!

augurey · August 2012

I was just thinking about posting something like this this afternoon!

You're not the only one! I think for us it's mostly budgeting woes vs just different ideas of what we want. There's a few things that we flat out disagree on that has nothing to do with money, but most of the bickering seems to be related to budget.

Definetely not alone!

rswans · August 2012

My FI pretty much just nods along to what I pick, but there are times where he really wants something and it's like "where did that come from!" I think it's because there are things I just always assumed my wedding would or wouldn't happen that I didn't even know I thought, so when he throws in his ideas that are different, it throws me off. We've worked through pretty much everything- our only current sticking point is the guest list.

ptobias45 · August 2012

You're not alone. Most of our bickering comes from things that my FMIL wants and he is just trying to do right by the both of us. Most of the time I just end out shouting that it's OUR wedding and not hers. Sometimes I feel selfish, but seriously...It's our wedding. Right?

SSaltzman87 · August 2012

There hasn't been too much that FI and I have disagreed about, but who knows what'll happen in the next 9 months lol :-P

melb2013 · August 2012

Manners and etiquette mean literally nothing to FI's family and so sometimes we have disagreements about me wanting to do things a certain way to be well mannered... he just doesn't always get it.

TogetherPerfect · August 2012

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[QUOTE]There hasn't been too much that FI and I have disagreed about, but who knows what'll happen in the next 9 months lol :-P
Posted by SSaltzman87[/QUOTE]
This! I would have to say the only disagreement was FI wanted to go to Jamaica for the HM and I wanted Mexico (and then I showed him the resort I loved and he was right there with me) lol We couldn't have gone wrong either way though :)

lalans · August 2012

Most of ours is just me trying to get him to make any kindof decision...I'm only badgering him about stuff like guest lists. I also wanted to go over budget on a photographer so was tyring to get his input into that. I finally got him to figure out wedding party stuff, so thats done at least and I can start talking to my girls (and boy). Up next...meeting with the rabbi, which he is willing to do at least without much trouble! He is even worse at advanced planning then me.

monikaedwards · August 2012

Feeling better that I'm not the only one! What kills me is that FI will say, "This is your wedding, I want you to be happy", bla bla. Then after I mention something that I want or know to be proper etiquette, he gets his panties in a twist. I guess it's just like one of y'all said: I've just always envisioned my wedding to go a certain way. This too shall pass! Just trying to be patient!

Danny&Mel2003 · August 2012

When Fi does disagree I ask him why an try to see his point. For the most we usually agree and discuss before anything becomes contracted. the only thing we disagreed on was budget but we settled that right away.

rswans · August 2012

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[QUOTE]Feeling better that I'm not the only one! <strong>What kills me is that FI will say, "This is your wedding, I want you to be happy", bla bla. Then after I mention something that I want or know to be proper etiquette, he gets his panties in a twist.</strong> I guess it's just like one of y'all said: I've just always envisioned my wedding to go a certain way. This too shall pass! Just trying to be patient!
Posted by monikaedwards[/QUOTE]

<div>For a second I thought I wrote this! That's my FI to a T.</div>

agancedo · August 2012

Luckily for the most part things have been smooth sailing. FI never cared to much for the whole wedding shebang and was ok just going to the court house. Although he has come around and is excited for certain things he pretty much just leaves the majority up to me agreeing with whatever I say lol. Its nice that I can put things how I envision them but it just sucks sometimes becuase its his wedding too! But w/e no major disagreements or anything just a lot of stress on both of us regarding budget woes.

monikaedwards · August 2012

Too funny! DannyMel, I try to do the same thing! I try to understand where FI is coming from because maybe I'm the one that's missing something.

bburkel · August 2012

Mine wants to be sure we get what we want for the money. Depending on the day, according to him, we have enough or not enough to pay for stuff. But, he's been mostly cool about stuff. The only things he really cares about is the tuxes, the cake topper (his vision is a little out there, but I'm letting him go with it), and the food and making sure there's enough to drink.

So far, our only little disagreement was the other night about his sister. I love her to death, but she's a bit of a hippy. Meaning, she goes pretty much "au natural" - no shaving or anything. I asked my fiance if it would be tacky for me to ask her to clean up for the wedding. He was a little taken aback by that, but said that it's my wedding and I should speak up and get what I want.

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