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Distant family or good friends

lettermom99lettermom99
in Wedding Invitations & Paper
I'm in a sticky situation.  We're having a VERY small wedding and our venue will only hold about 50 guests comfortably.  We have 87 on our guest list.  I know some will not be able to make it, BUT--should i invite family of my FH I've only met once or twice.  We've been together 11 years! We have many close friends we've had to scratch off our list that I'd rather invite but FH is worried about hurting his mothers feelings since its her family we'd be cutting off the list.  What do you think???  I have a VERY small family, only 2, so there is nothing to cut on my side.
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    banana468banana468 member
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    First, you should invite only 50 (or 48 if that count includes you and your FI).

    I think you and your FI need to come up with a plan for the "must" invites.  If he's comfortable leaving off the distant family then go with what he says.
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    quotequeenquotequeen member
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    Whether you have met them is irrelevant if your FI thinks he's close enough to invite them.  He needs to be the one to make that decision.  You can't just say "well I'd rather invite our friends over his family" and do it, because it's not just your wedding.
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    aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    If your venue can only comfortably hold 50, you can only invite 50.  Inviting more than your venue can hold is a certain recipe for disaster.  The "distant family vs. friends" debate is something that really varies from couple to couple.  You and your FI are just going to have to talk this out until you can get that guest list down.  If you can't possibly cut it down further, find a bigger venue.
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