What order did you plan your wedding in?
I was planning on assembling a guest list (ball park not finalized) to get an idea of how many people we'd be talking about and then look at my budget and pick a venue that we can afford while factoring in the number of people we'll need to accomodate.
My mother seems to think that we should look at the budget first, then look for a venue that fits with that budget and then make a list based on how many people the venue can hold. Given the large size of my family, I'm not sure that's the best approach.
Also both of our parents have offered to help us pay for our wedding, which is really nice of them, but I'm unsure of how/when to ask them for actual numbers. If they've offered to help is it ok for me to ask them what they would like to contribute?