My MOH really wants to be involved in important aspects of the planning process. She wants to help me choose the flowers (and shot down all the flowers that I wanted and the florist I chose), she wanted to choose the photographer and actually even be at the engagement shoot, she wanted to come with us to look at venues and wanted me to run the venue by her before I made a decision, etc.
I'm really not the type of person to want other people too involved in the planning process. I want this wedding to be something that FI and I plan together, and that reflects our personalities. Of course, I value my parents' opinions because they are paying for it, but they pretty much leave everything up to us. If I need advice on an issue, I'll ask for it, and I would be more than happy to have her help with DIY projects, decorating, etc... I just want the majority of the planning to be on me and FI.
So that brings me to the issue I am running into today... I chose the dress that I originally chose in a large part due to her. She was in love with the dress and even when I went back to try on more dresses because I was still unsure, she didn't have an open mind because she was so set on me getting that dress. I listened to her, and got the dress (which is my bad...), but now I am having major second thoughts so I am going back to David's Bridal to try on more. I am not telling her or anyone else... I'm just going by myself and if I decide to change I'll have my mom come view the dress before I decide to purchase it.
Is it wrong of me not to involve her more? And is it bad that I am not asking her to come look at dresses with me again? She has very strong opinions, and she and I have very opposite styles which is making it harder. Let me know what you guys think...