I am just curious and figured I'd see where other women stand on this issue...
My boyfriend and I are in our late 20's, working professionals, and have lived together for the last two and a half years. We are very much in love and have talked about getting married within the next two years.
The other night, we had some people over for a party mainly his guy friends and their girlfriends. We started talking about getting married and weddings. One of his friends pointed out that an engagement ring is a waste of money and went on about how one could buy a motorcycle for the same amount of money. Even the other girls there felt engagement rings were unnecessary.
Am I out of line for wanting one? The boyfriend and I have discussed rings and which one I would want. I know how much he can afford since I take care of the finances in the house and would never put demands on him about how much he "had" to spend. I didn't realize I was in the minority on this. I never even thought of getting married without an engagement ring. At some point, way down the road when we do have children, I'd like to be able to give my future son my ring to give to whomever he chooses. Plus, isn't it a symbol to the world that you are committed to someone?
One of the girls at the party referred to me as a "gold digger" for wanting a ring which is completely untrue. But do other girlfriends feel this way? Like it's wrong to want an engagement ring?
Just to clarify: I don't NEED a ring. If he asked me tomorrow with no ring, of course I'd say yes because I want a life with him and not a piece of jewelry.