OKAY LONG READ GIRLS BUT I NEED ADVICE!!!
Recently engaged. I have a maid of honor (childhood best friend) and two bridesmaids (girls I used to be EXTREMELY close with a couple years back.)
My problem is with the two bridesmaids. I'll call them BM1 and BM2. BM1, BM2 and I use to serve together at a restaurant in Pasadena for over two years. We were extremely close and I love them dearly. About two years ago, I quit the restaurant and got a 9-5 job and they remained there serving. Because of our opposite schedules, we couldnt find the time to hang out as much (they would call me at least twice a week at late hours asking me to come hang out but i had to be up by 6am!!!) and eventually became distant. In the last two years, they have become EXTREMELY close to one another and I have become more of a close friend who they miss..which is fine...we all grow apart. But we still love eachother and I do really really miss them. When I told them I got engaged and wanted them to be my bridesmaids, they seemed geniunely excited.
But then this past Friday night, I was thrown COMPLETELY off guard by them. Although we have spoken via Facebook, I hadnt seen them in months. They invited me to their dual-birthday party and I was very excited to go! I thought for sure there would be an "OH MY GOD!" moment and I was excited to show them my beautiful ring and spend a couple of moments catching up. But then when I got there, BM1 hardly said anything to me! She saw me as I was coming and said hello and gave me a kiss. Then that was it. I knew she was entertaining everyone, so I just decided to be patient. BM2 was a little better and came to say hi to me, said hi to Josh my fiance, and introduced me to a couple of her new friends. But then that was it...Other than mentioning to her stepfather that Josh and I were engaged, there was no asking to see the ring, no talk of the proposal or wedding planning, zilch. Josh and I sat down and sipped wine quietly as we didnt know anyone besides the BM's at the party. BM1 even passed by us a couple times and didnt say a word to me. I thought at first it might have been me just being uber-sensitive, but then even Josh mentioned that they didnt even ask to see the ring on the way home and I was like "I KNOW!!!!!"
I felt a little sad and jealous that they seemd to have made newer friends that they are closer with, but mostly it made me re-think asking them to be bridesmaids. By the time we got home that night, I was convinced that I should un-ask them and that they werent into it and I should just get the hint. Then,......The day before I had sent both of them messages on facebook asking them if we could all get together soon to go shopping for dresses. The morning after the party, I checked my facebook and BM1 (who had hardly said anyting to me at the party) had replied with "OK!!!!!! LET US KNOW!" and then I was like HMMMMM....maybe I was being too sensitive?
Josh says I was prolly a little too sensitive and that maybe I should ask them out for drinks and let them know how I feel but I feel like maybe that would come off as too needy.
What do you all think? Am I being too sensitive or should I nix them?