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Gift Giving...

SrasotasunshineSrasotasunshine member
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Ok ladies...I need your POV on this one.

A friend is getting married in a few weeks. I have been invited to the engagement party, his fiance's bridal shower, and now her bachelorette party. I am not close to her but she is nice and they make a great couple so I am going. My fi is going to the bachelor party the same night.

We gave them a gift for their EP, I gave another one to her for the BS along with a pair of bridal undies. We also will be giving them a nice gift for the wedding....which is out of town.

The issue I am having is when I opened the invite to the bachelorette party they wrote a side note asking the girls to bring bridal lingere.

We will be going to dinner and out for drinks which I can afford (I'll eat a small app and have one drink out and about I don't need to be drinking and driving). but having to bring a gift to this occasion will be stretching our budget (As I am sure we are all learning a simple pair of bridal undies from VS or Fredricks can run 15-20 bucks). Would it be wrong if I showed up without a gift or a bottle of wine instead? I have never been invited to a BP that requested gifts. Plus I already got her some nice undies. I am conflicted becuase I don't like showing up empty handed...
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  • Stackeye210Stackeye210 member
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    I wouldn't bring a gift, nor would I feel awkward or bad about it. 
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  • aimers1525aimers1525 member
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    If you do feel like you want/should bring her a gift, you could always pick up something at Target/TJ Maxx/Marshalls/Filene's. They have cute and affordable lingerie.  
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  • SrasotasunshineSrasotasunshine member
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    Yes I could go to TJ Maxx....but that would be dangerous for me right now...pretty shiny (discounted!) things!!! and at the same time I feel like I already gave the the undies.  If only I knew BEFORE I told her I would make the Bach. party that the undies were a gift for THAT I would have saved them and given them to her for that instead of with the gift for the BS.
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  • georgia_bride09georgia_bride09 member
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    Because you already gave her bridal lingerie, I wouldn't take anything, and like Stack said, I wouldn't feel bad. People have to understand that it isn't a financial free for all. You can only give what you can afford, and you can't afford lingerie right now.
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  • SrasotasunshineSrasotasunshine member
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    Thanks ladies. To make it less awkward I went ahead and rsvped to the girl that is throwing it for her (more than just the verbal to the bride a month ago). I did tell her I would not be able to meet everyone at the house for the pre party (I am assuming the gift giving and dressing her up will be around then) but I will be happy to meet everyone for dinner at the restaurant.
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  • georgia_bride09georgia_bride09 member
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    Sounds like a plan!
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  • ShanaFryShanaFry
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    I say go to the granny panty section and buy the biggest silliest pair you can find! Inexpensive and hilarious!
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  • Stackeye210Stackeye210 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gift-giving-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:db8cfa68-a34a-4aaa-8b30-6454346bf4c6Post:4c3b48ff-39c6-42d6-999a-975b633f1567">Re: Gift Giving...</a>:
    [QUOTE]I say go to the granny panty section and buy the biggest silliest pair you can find! Inexpensive and hilarious!
    Posted by ShanaFry[/QUOTE]

    YES - this.  Brilliant - and make her open them at the restaurant since you're meeting them later! 
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  • ShanaFryShanaFry
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     I forgot about the restaurant part, that makes it even funnier!  Because we can assume she won't actually wear them you could get them at a thrift store making it an even cheaper gift!

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  • SrasotasunshineSrasotasunshine member
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    Haha perhaps the high waist ones with the tummy control tag on the side? (she is tiny so it would not be like I was insulting her:) Thanks for the humor ladies...a refersher from some of the snraky comments from other people on other posts! :)
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