Hello all!!
I am one of six bridemaids in my oldest friend's (literally...we have known each other for 20 years) wedding this June. I am an event planner and have planned parties over the years. Three of us in the bridal party are very close and have grown up with one another. Last year when my friend got engaged, I offered to throw her a bridal shower if she wanted it. Her maid of honor is one of the three close friends. I even asked her before I started planning if she wanted to throw her own shower, if we wanted to co-host, or what. Her response, "I would love to help you throw it if possible." Absolutely! Of course! She said since she is in grad school and busy, she would just be a helper.
Now, months later when we need to set a date for this bridal shower, which is going to be the local shower and she is having another one in her fiance's hometown, the MOH is taking over everything. I went to discuss dates with her and the bride and they had already decided on a date. So when I asked her if she wanted to be the host now or co-host, she responds, "I will need your help setting up with food. I don't care about the title." What does that mean??? I don't want to involve the bride, plus she can't say no to anyone. I have put a lot of money and planning into this shower all ready. I don't know what to say or offer to the MOH. I would love to still do something for the bride.