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Sigh... I'm already over it... (vent)

Sweet_AdelineSweet_Adeline member
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I never thought that I would DISlike wedding planning.  I really wish that we could just hire someone to do it all for us, but that's just not in the budget.

Currently, centerpieces are the bane of my existence.  We went back to the Lake Union Cafe on Sunday, and the manzanita branch idea I had simply won't work, because they are too big.  Dann at LUC had some really simple, and pretty ideas, but now FI has decided that he REALLY wants gerberas as a part of the centerpeices. I had already planned on using roses for the bouquets, etc - those *were* going to be the only thing we used flowers for.  And I don't think gerberas and roses look good together...

Then, FI tells me that he thinks that the tablecloths aren't long enough, and that he also wants to add in table runners.  I have no idea why he decided tht linens would be the thing that's super important to him.  I don't think he understands the budgetary constraints, even though I've shown him line by line what we have budgeted for what.

just 10 more months to go.  I can make it!
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  • jennuinnejennuinne member
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    edited December 2011
    At least your FI is involved.  Tell him to figure it out and how it works in the budget, then run it by you b/f he books anything.  Then maybe (1) it won't ever happen, or (2) he'll figure out that it doesn't really work, or (3) he'll figure out a way to work and you don't have to do all the work.
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  • BrandyL10BrandyL10
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    edited December 2011
    Yeah, at leat he is involved!! But I would just try and reason with him. I think that is the best you can do. Maybe put it off for a little while to think on it some more and he'll drop it? I don't know, you will probably have to compromise somewhere but if it's not in the budget, then he should also understand that.
    Good luck!
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  • ahuetteahuette
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    edited December 2011
    My FI is very similar in that he has input on the weirdest things.  Diddo pp about offering him to come up w how it will work....I did this and it worked out great.  Example:  I bought name card holders in hopes they would be able to hold up my table numbers as is.  This was not the case. They were on clearance so I couldn't return them.  I wanted to buy new ones and FI wanted to drill holes, add wire and glue it all together to hold the number in these holders.  I wanted no part of this and told him if he wanted to try it out, go for it.  But if it didn't work the first time, I was buying new ones and we would move on.  He did all the work, his plan worked out and they look fantastic! 

    Good Luck!!  You can make it!!
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  • mgoss228mgoss228 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would "sleep" on those issues for now, give it a couple of weeks or months, depending on if there is a deadline on making the decisions.  He or you might change your mind on a few things in the next 10 months.

    But if your FI wants to help, you could let him have a couple of projects and let him deal with budget and all the logistics.  Once he gets the big picture, maybe that will shock him back into reality, and he can make some decisions that will go with your wedding scheme and budget!  GL!
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