sending invites?

Elaina1012 · June 2012

When are you sending invites? I was thinking begining of August and it looks like im reading online it should be 3 month mark? Im not gonna make it by July 13th...

ivedonethisb4 · June 2012

6 to 8 weeks is proper. The 8 for OOT and 6 for locals. Ours is Oct 20 and I'm hoping to start getting mine in the mail by Aug 19 or the week of. 3 months is really a long time people will have forgotten.

CarolineandDean · June 2012

Im sending mine out on 8/15. My RSVP date is 9/20 for my 10/20 wedding. I'm sending mine a good 8 weeks out because we didn't send Save The Dates, and we do have several out of town guests. I may actually send the invites to those who are out of state a few weeks earlier.

fjw2012 · June 2012

I've been wondering about this as well. We sent STD's out so people already know when the wedding is, but I have an RSVP date of September 12 for our wedding October 12. If I send them out at six weeks that only gives them less than two weeks to decide and send back the reply card. I'm thinking I'm going to split the difference and send them out at 7 weeks.

jonesma204 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_sending-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:404bb354-6210-431c-bc6c-c3cc1f887eb7Post:881efec3-f190-42d6-be40-48ff46ad3455">Re: sending invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]Im sending mine out on 8/15. My RSVP date is 9/20 for my 10/20 wedding. I'm sending
Posted by CarolineandDean[/QUOTE]

same here :)

RockstarWifey0912 · June 2012

Originally wanted to send them out August 12 (or whatever the 2nd friday in August is, I think it's the 12th...) but I may wait until the last Friday. We don't have that many OOT guests, and I'd rather people not forget.

udream05 · June 2012

I'm doing August 1st, because it's easier to remember? Shooting for 8-10 weeks before, although I guess that's only 8 1/2 so maybe I'll send them that monday of that week.. RSVP date is Sept 15 for an October 7th wedding. I don't want to send them too soon or people might lose them.

LadyElite · June 2012

Thanks for asking this; I was JUST about to post this question!!

My date is Oct. 14 & we're sending the A list on Aug 1 and the B list on Aug 14. I have RSVP dates of Sept 1 and Sept 14, respectively.

music11 · June 2012

I will be sending OOT guests' invites at the 3-month mark (July) as well as to my work collleaugues who did not get a save the date, but other people will probably get them closer to the 2-month mark.

ericaandtom2012 · June 2012

I'm aiming to send invitations out around Aug 24 for our Oct 19 wedding. RSVP date will be Sept 27.

ericaandtom2012 · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_sending-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:404bb354-6210-431c-bc6c-c3cc1f887eb7Post:14a04e01-ce06-4124-ab2a-e7d1db339034">Re: sending invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]Thanks for asking this; I was JUST about to post this question!! My date is Oct. 14 & we're sending the <strong>A list on Aug 1 and the B list on Aug 14</strong>. I have RSVP dates of Sept 1 and Sept 14, respectively.
Posted by LadyElite[/QUOTE]
<div>Ignoring the fact that B lists are rude, how are you doing a B list after only 2 weeks? Most people don't send their RSVPs back right away, especially if it's a no (trying to find out if they can make it work). </div>

mrshall1027 · June 2012

I'll be sending ours out about the second or third week of August. Our RSVP date is 9/27, wedding date is 10/27. We have a lot of OOT guests and we want to give them extra time to prep.

shoebie · June 2012

Mine are out, the way I see it is better early then late. I had quite a few comments from friends how they loved getting it early and one cousin who re scheduled her vacation around it had it been less then 3 months she would have had to pay a significant fee to switch travel arrangements and hotel stays.......

[Deleted User] · June 2012

I agree that I'd rather send them too early than too late. Most of our guests are OOT so we're sending them at the 12 week mark. I figure everyone should have them by the following week then they'll have 6 weeks to get it back in the mail. Our RSVP date is a bit soon but Sept. 1 should be easy to remember.

LDubHawksFan · June 2012

For our Oct 20th wedding, I am planning on sending them out August 10th or 17th (depending on my vacations that week) with an RSVP date of Sept 21st.

goatlady12 · June 2012

I plan on sending mine out at about 11 weeks. I completely agree with too early over to late. I just got an invite Monday for a wedding on August 4th in California. (I'm in MN) If I had 3 months to plan I'd be able to go, but with this short of notice I can't budget for it and my wedding. We have a lot of OOT guests and didn't send STDs, so I would like to accomodate them.
That and with everyone changing their dang addresses I'd rather get thse puppies out before more can move!!

kjerl · June 2012

We are having a DW but since we sent out STDs, I am thinking we will send invitations out around 8/20. Our wedding date is 10/19 with a RSVP of 9/21. Hopefully that timing works!

Ashleigh828 · June 2012

I think 3 months is way too early. I just received an invitation to a wedding in late September and my first thought was "woah! way too early." Sorry... but 3 months is too early. Especially if you've sent STD's, OOT or not.

mlperkins12 · June 2012

This is my primary obsession/source of stress. I followed TK's timeline and have been preparing to send my invites at the 3 month mark. Lately I have been on the etiquette board a lot and realize that 8 weeks is much more the norm. I planned my RSVP date for 8/30 so I could have sand dollars done by a calligrapher for our escort cards. The invites and addresses are in the envelopes so I can't change the RSVP date now. I think I'm just going to stick with the 3 month number, though I now realize it is a bit early.

lehc723 · June 2012

The goal is July 7th. We're October 6th, and our RSVP date is August 24th (with the understanding that it may actually be August 30th).

LadyElite · June 2012

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: sending invites? : Ignoring the fact that B lists are rude, how are you doing a B list after only 2 weeks? Most people don't send their RSVPs back right away, especially if it's a no (trying to find out if they can make it work).
Posted by ericaandtom2012[/QUOTE]

Thanks for your concern. We'll manage.

shoebie · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_october-2012-weddings_sending-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:56b9bcef-1e34-456e-81f5-cfaa107456b2Discussion:404bb354-6210-431c-bc6c-c3cc1f887eb7Post:122abd53-1fc2-487c-9378-24ed0ce8957a">Re: sending invites?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: sending invites? : Ignoring the fact that B lists are rude, how are you doing a B list after only 2 weeks? Most people don't send their RSVPs back right away, especially if it's a no (trying to find out if they can make it work).
Posted by ericaandtom2012[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I know you are rather new to this board, but this is one of the nicest ones on theknot.com and your tone is not needed nor accepted here. No one asked for opinions on b list invites they asked an RSVP date question. Just try and keep in mind if you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all thanks :D Happy Planning ! </div>

amyelise25 · June 2012

For a 10/20 wedding I'm sticking with sending around 8/20. Most guest are OOT and we did do STDs. Our RSVP date is 3 weeks before the wedding. Our wedding is smaller and I don't need to give a head-count until 2 weeks prior.

I'm relieved to see that most who answered are sticking to the 6-8 week rule.

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