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Bridal Party Dance?

JodiB28JodiB28
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I know typically the bridal party dance consists of just that-the bridal party. Is it weird to change that up and have the bridal party dance with their significant others who aren't part of the party? My fiance and I find it odd to have my sister (matron of honor) dancing with his best man who's wife is also in my bridal party. My fiance's brother and sister-in-law are also in the wedding but not lined up together.  
I just wasn't sure how to go about this and could use some advice or tips!
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  • kmmssgkmmssg mod
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    Ditto CMG.  Somewhere in ancient history someone thought this would be a great idea.  Ask yourself - have you ever been thrilled to sit through one of those?  Please don't make your guests do it.  They have 3 special dances already to deal with and you will do your friends a great favor by skipping it.

    Props to you for your consideration to them and their SO's!
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  • em01092em01092 member
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    Ditto PPs. If you insist on having a "WP" dance, definitely let the WP members dance with their SOs. If anyone is single, this could be a problem I suppose. 

    What I would do is just skip the WP dance all together. Your WP members and their SOs can dance to any old slow song during the reception. No need to spotlight them. Have your DJ annouce them as the enter the venue. That's enough recognition right there. 
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  • JodiB28JodiB28
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    edited February 2012
    Thank you ladies! My fiance is completely on board with skipping that dance so I'm thinking that is what we will do. You all are right, nobody likes sitting through MORE special dances, I hadn't even thought of that.
    Thanks for the advice!
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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    The last wedding I went to, the wedding party danced to one of my favorite songs, and I wasn't allowed to dance to it :-(  I also knew I wouldn't get to because they wouldn't play the same song twice in one night - sad!  So I vote for skipping it all together and letting ALL your guests dance.
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  • SCogs18SCogs18 member
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    Were you talking about doing a group dance or just having each member of the bridal party dance with another member?  I don't think it would be terrible the do 75% of your first dance and them have the bridal party join you as couples and dance the final bit with you to kind of open the dance floor.
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  • calliopeia2013calliopeia2013 member
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    Haha, I know your question's already been answered, but I just wanted to share my sense of yuck at the idea of making members of your bridal party dance with people who aren't their SOs.  It's creepy for the people who have to dance, and, frankly, insulting to the SOs who aren't in the wedding party. 


    P.S. You said you have couples in your wedding party who aren't lined up together; if you're having them enter or exit in pairs, it's really courteous (not required, obvs, but would be really nice of you) to let the couples walk in together, and then just go to their place in the line beside you and your groom even if its not quite the same order as they walked in.  Same for the recessional.  It makes people more comfortable and also gives them the opportunity to get some nice pictures of themselves as a couple, arm in arm, looking all lovely in formalwear.  Just a thought.

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  • jeffsgirl100612jeffsgirl100612
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    We are only having 2 "special" dances, our first dance and my FI is going to dance with his little girl, our parents are all gone so no need for father/daughter mother/son dances. I always have hated the "bridal party" dance its awkward to make people dance with someone who's not their SO... unless everyone is single, which in our case we are older so everyone's married off it just doesn't make sense.
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  • jdvis1jdvis1
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    I am skipping this altogether. Last month my FI was in his friends wedding  and he had to dance with this girl that I dont get along with at all, and she was all over him because she knew I was watching. I was miserable!! I wouldnt want to put anyone else through this.
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  • NicoleMarcelleNicoleMarcelle member
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    Ditto to PPs - I had to sit through one of these at a friends' wedding where FI was in the WP and I wasn't, it was awkward, not to mention the BM that FI was dancing with had a crazy jealous bf who looked like he wanted to kill FI! - Also, i think it's worth mentioning, a head table with the WP is kind of awkward when the SOs are not in the wedding party, we spent the entire dinner sitting apart, while the rest of my table was all couples, excepting the crazy bf... :)
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