Is this a weird way to do the head table?

kmckenzie89 · May 2010

Hi!

To make a long story short, I have 6 bridesmaids, 5 groomsman, a maid of honor, best man, 3 flower girls and a ring bearer. Yep... gang's all here!

I don't want just a sweetheart table at the wedding... heck, I get to have dinner with my fiance ever night, why would I want it to be just us along at the reception? I want to sit with the wedding party. I feel like otherwise, I'll feel left out of their conversation and fun (as silly as that sounds, since the day's pretty much focused on us!)

The problem here, however, is that the three flower girls and the ring bearer all belong to bridesmaids/groomsmen. Two of the flower girls are twins, and both their mom and dad are in the wedding party. Another flower girl is the daughter of another bridesmaid, and the ring bearer is the son of another bridesmaid. The girls will all be 3 1/2 at the wedding, and the ring bearer will be 7.

The table is going to be crowded enough as is, so I do not want to have all four kids up at the head table. All of their grandparents and other family members will be at the wedding, obviously, but being the ages they are, the parents are concerned they might not behave very well sitting at another family member's table.

What I was thinking is this:

What about if I had a table very close to the head table that seated Flower Girls 1 & 2, their parents (again, both in the bridal party), Flower Girl 3 and her parents (only Mom is in the party, Dad is not), and Ring Bearer and his parents (only Mom is in the party, Dad is not), and then the rest of the bridal party at the head table?

Is that something you've ever seen before?

I'm not concerned for a second about the bridesmaids feeling out of place or anything by being at a different table-- THEY are the ones that are concerned about their kids being comfortable, so I'm sure they'll be thrilled to be sitting with them (though obviously I'd ask them.) I'm just curious if anyone's done this before, or if anyone had a better/alternative solution for this problem.

Thanks so much for any help... so much for me keeping a long story short!

bidge24 · May 2010

i'm in a similiar situation. my ringbearer, flower girl, and 2 jr bridesmaids range from 2 years-8 years old. both sets of parents are in the wedding party. i decided to set it up so one of the groomsmen(my bro-in-law and father of 2 of the kids) will be escorting the jr bridesmaids. all of the kids will be sitting at the table with my parents and my brother in law. that way i know that they will be under control and wont feel left out, as they are all extremely close with my parents, and will basically only be sitting there until dinner is done.

nleley1505 · May 2010

I've never seen it done that way before but it sounds like that's what is going to work best for you so I'd just go ahead and set it up that way!

danieliza1127 · May 2010

For your head table, are you envisioning the long rectangle table where you all sit on one side of it facing your guests so you're display? If you're talking about that kind, then I think it would be weird to have two of those. Now if you just make your table and the other table you're talking about regular tables like the ones your guests are sitting at, I think it would work just fine.

nboulanger · May 2010

Put the kids with grandma and grandpa or their other parent that isn't in the bridal party. Dinner and the sit down portion is not that long they that couldn't hang out with some chicken fingers and dad. Even if you have one of the bunch that can't sit with a parent, put him with the kids and other parents, they can entertain each other.

Catwoman708 · May 2010

I would put the kids at a table with the grandparents at a "kids" table, with some kid's goody bags. If the grandparents are up to it.

I woldn't worrry about the kids actin gup. Typically kids will behave better for other people than they do for their own parents, lol. Unless Grandma and Grandpa let them get away with anything.

Or you might ask the parents if they want to sit at a separate table with their kids, or if they'd like to sit at the all adults wedding party table.

Theresa626 · May 2010

That is exactly what I would do if I were in your situation.

Theresa626 · May 2010

I don't agree with other posters about separating kids from parents. I'd be annoyed if I were the parent that I couldn't sit with my child. I don't think this is fair to those parents. You should have a long head table and the first round table be the one with the children and it can be close to the head table.

atobin86 · May 2010

I agree with Catwoman...make a kids table...instead of using a table cloth use butcher paper, give them some crayons and let them play. Then their parents can have a good time and not have to worry about their children acting up because they'll be preoccupied.

lyndausvi · May 2010

I think it's fine.

At our wedding DH and I sat with the kids in the WP. They were ages 6-15 and very well behaved. Unusual? Yes !!! Did it work out for us? Absoutely. We were only there 15 minutes anyway.

Oh and my siblings requested a kids table. Again our kids were older, you can't really get away with that with a 3 year old.

ladydee215 · May 2010

If you put them with the other family members but create a fun goody bag with paper, crayons, bubbles etc even a game for the dollar should help them stay occupied and not be bored. Have the bags at the reception for them when they get there so it is a surprise which will keep them excited.

MillerBride11 · May 2010

we will have 1 MOH/BM, 3-4 GM/BM's. 2 ring bearers and our daughter who will be 2, will be our flower girl. Our tables seat 6-8, and we are prob doing something like this.
1st table Me and my FI, BM and his date, MOH and her date, andour daughter.
2nd table will have the other BM's and thier dates and the RB ( 2 of my bm's children), and the 3rd table will have the GM's and thier dates, and thier children. I dont like the Idea of seperating them from thier SO or children. Our table will be the 'head table' and the other wp tables will be ''VIP"

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