Hi all,
My fiance and I don't live together, and there's a strong possibility we'll be moving across the country within a month after the wedding for me to go to grad school. Are there any stores with registries that could let us hold gifts until we have an address? We don't really want to lug everything with us across county when it'd be easier--and cheaper-- for stores to send gifts directly to our new home together than to have gifts sent to my already-cluttered apartment only for us to pack it and move it in a few months. Plus, I don't want to leave brand new china up to movers to handle--to likely it'll get broken and I won't have the recourse of a warranty or exchange opportunity! Thoughts?
Re: No idea where to send gifts!
My question is, since some registries let you set up an additional mailing address and set a date (presumably after the wedding day) for that to become the primary ship-to address, are there stores that allow me or guests to delay shipment until we're set up somewhere, or at least until we know what state we'll be living in? It's like asking the post office to hold your mail when you're on vacation. Macy's FAQ says they won't hold gifts, but that doesn't mean other stores won't. And money is saved, regardless of who's saving it, by having items shipped to a final destination than by paying to ship them to one place, then having to pay to ship them again with movers.
Does anyone else have any helpful suggestions?
The only thing you can do is wait to give out your registry information until you know where you will be, so that way people can just have the gifts shipped there. But it sounds like you don't even know for sure if you are moving and it will be after the wedding. You will most likely get all your gifts purchased before or right after the wedding. How long are you expecting someone to hold these gifts for you?
Maybe you should just not register. That way you'll probably get mostly cash and can just buy what you want after you move. Of course, if you don't register, then you can't accept a shower either.
It sounds to me like you want to have your cake and eat it too. I don't mean to be mean or rude, but seriously, your question is a little unrealistic.
The 'ship here after such-and-such date' means that you have one address for shipping before that date, and another for after that date. It doesn't mean that the store holds your gifts. I'm sure that your friends and family will understand that you are uncertain where you will be living, and you can let people know by word of mouth that you would prefer not to have to move a lot of gifts across country.
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I really don't understand the need to say that I'm "out of touch with reality" or being unrealistic or asking for the moon. This is a forum for brides who haven't been planning their weddings since they were 10 to ask questions and get insight, not to be told they're being ridiculous. What would be ridiculous is going ahead with my "unrealistic" plans without asking questions to people who have been there and may have answers, and then getting screwed in the end. Did anyone plan her entire wedding without buying a "how-to" book or bridal magazines, or inquiring on the Knot or with girlfriends, or seeking help from a planner? So I appreciate the advice, but not the "reality check." I'm well aware of the things I need help on, and that's why I'm asking the questions. Thanks!