Writing vows?

jakigaudet · March 2013

I just started working on my vows. At first we didn't think we were going to do this, but we later decided that we should really put the work into this special writing assignment.

Anyone else doing this? How is it going for you?

orangehills · March 2013

We are doing the traditional church vows that our pastor has. He is going to give them to us this week and let us change them to how we want them, but we'll probably keep them pretty old school I think! FI is not good at expressing himself, and neither am I all that much, so we figured this would be easier!

faile556 · March 2013

We're writing our own ... I've had a basic idea of what I was going to write for a while. A couple sentances here or there and then one day I sat down and just busted it out. Here's my not final , but I like it well enough, draft. I'm just pretty sure it's too long.

"Dan, today I take you to be my husband. I vow to be faithful to you always; to stand by your side and hold your hand, not only when life is good, but when life goes a little wibbly wobbly and things are difficult. I promise to always communicate honestly and openly with you, even if I am afraid, because with you, I know my heart is safe. Two years ago today, I was able to be exactly myself with you, and every day since, you've reminded me to try and be the best version of myself. I promise to do the same for you; to always accept you as the man you are, or the man you might become, either way, you are the man I fell in love with.

I promise to always make time for you, and for us, even when life gets in the way. I love every minute with you and promise to embrace each moment, no matter how mundane they may seem, because truthfully, not a single moment of my life has been mundane since you became a part of it.

I promise to always be here for you. To laugh with you while we're watching Top Gear , or to cry with you while watching a romantic comedy. I promise to listen to you, even when you're all the way across the house and you have to repeat something a few times. I promise to be careful with my words, even when I am frustrated, and I promise to never take you or your kindness for granted.
I vow to never stop being silly, this means you’ll be getting pretty terrible puns, geeky jokes, and random commentary for the rest of our lives…I hope you’re prepared for that. The silliness we share, though, is something I treasure and the fact that I get to spend every day with you, from here on out, makes it even better.

Today I take you to be my husband but today is only a single day in the journey of the rest of our lives. I vow to continue to choose you, every day, until the end of time."

FutureMrsKupko · March 2013

Whenever I think about my vows I get nauseous! I am so nervous to speak in front of people! My fiance really wants to write our own vows. I need a coping mechanism to get through this without passing out.

mabapunta · March 2013

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[QUOTE]We're writing our own ... I've had a basic idea of what I was going to write for a while. A couple sentances here or there and then one day I sat down and just busted it out. Here's my not final , but I like it well enough, draft. I'm just pretty sure it's too long. "Dan, today I take you to be my husband. I vow to be faithful to you always; to stand by your side and hold your hand, not only when life is good, but when life goes a little wibbly wobbly and things are difficult. I promise to always communicate honestly and openly with you, even if I am afraid, because with you, I know my heart is safe. Two years ago today, I was able to be exactly myself with you, and every day since, you've reminded me to try and be the best version of myself. I promise to do the same for you; to always accept you as the man you are, or the man you might become, either way, you are the man I fell in love with. I promise to always make time for you, and for us, even when life gets in the way. I love every minute with you and promise to embrace each moment, no matter how mundane they may seem, because truthfully, not a single moment of my life has been mundane since you became a part of it. I promise to always be here for you. To laugh with you while we're watching Top Gear , or to cry with you while watching a romantic comedy. I promise to listen to you, even when you're all the way across the house and you have to repeat something a few times. I promise to be careful with my words, even when I am frustrated, and I promise to never take you or your kindness for granted. I vow to never stop being silly, this means you’ll be getting pretty terrible puns, geeky jokes, and random commentary for the rest of our lives…I hope you’re prepared for that. The silliness we share, though, is something I treasure and the fact that I get to spend every day with you, from here on out, makes it even better. Today I take you to be my husband but today is only a single day in the journey of the rest of our lives. I vow to continue to choose you, every day, until the end of time."
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Wow. Those are absolutely beautiful! Maybe long, but I wouldn't know what to take out!

FI and I will be writing our own, and I have a few notes written down, but nothing concrete. I know I have to keep them short though, especially for me. I'm an emotional person and was crying at my best friend's wedding last November! I know I'll be fighting tears (happy ones!) on my own wedding day, and I'm honestly not sure I'd be able to make it through more than a few sentences.

I've been googling various suggestions and have a Google doc of my random ideas so far. Now I just have to get FI to actually sit down with me and hammer them out! :)

phoenix870509 · March 2013

My FI decided that we would write our own vows. I wanted the traditional vows but he wants us to write our own. This is what I have so far. I think it's horrible. Let me know what you think:

Robert, I remember the first time I met you…for the second time. I guess fate decided we would be a pretty cute couple. It's been an interesting six years, but I wouldn't change anything for the world. Everything we have been through has only strengthened our relationship. When I look at you, I still get those butterflies I felt all those years ago when I fell in love with you. Today is the first day of the rest of our lives. Sounds scary, but with you I’m not afraid.

I promise to love you always, even during post season, although I might not like you very much.

melicifant · March 2013

We have been reading examples on the internet. When things get too overwhelming we goof off with them by reading them in various ways. The "This is Sparta" way is the funniest.
in all seriousness, we have taken a little from all the ones we have read.

[Deleted User] · March 2013

Part of me is jealous of you all who are writing your own vows, but part of me is really happy that I just have to memorize that traditional Catholic script

I'll probably be too excited to remember anything more! And I'm a crier so I'd totally cry if I said everything in my own words.

ChiGirl2013 · March 2013

We pieced together various things we found online but neither of us is good at memorizing things, so we're going to repeat them after the officiant one line at a time. The best of both worlds!

I joke about adding in a line where I promise not to eat him during a zombie apocalypse (we're both HUGE Walking Dead fans) but I honestly think my aunt would have a heart attack.

vk2204 · March 2013

We are not writing our own vows because we are having a Catholic ceremony, but what Father told us to do was to write down ahead of time how we think we will feel the day of. Like go through all the 'big' things and write our emotions down as we feel them. And then later - days, months, etc - on reveal them to each other. All I feel when I think of those moments are "please don't throw up, pass out, or sob hysterically" lol. That is one of the main reasons I did not want to write my vows because I know that will happen.

eddiesgirl11 · March 2013

phoenix870509 they were reallly good!

We are writing our own vows.. FI has been done writing them since a week after we got engaged... ill be lucky if i get them done before I go down the aisle..

They are stressful!

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