XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe}

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

I posted this over on the SB board but I want to see your responses here:

So would you be mad if you found out that your SIL tried on your ring before you got it? I am just curious because last night at my cousins wedding her SIL was giving her speech and mentioned this and....A lot of the women were all OMG!! and I was kinda like Meh? I mean that's not something I think she should have admitted but....not the worst thing that someone could say...

Sloane99 · June 2010

I stand by my orignal answer, but I'll await other responses before I repost

vegasgroom · June 2010

Can't give you the fiancee's outlook on it but when I was shopping for her ring I asked the sales people in the store to try on what I was looking at if they had a finger it would fit on, and if I had a sister (only child) I'd probably have asked her to go shopping with me and asked her to try it on; it's hard to get an idea of what something actually looks like on a woman's hand when you're just holding it in front of you. I'm guessing a lot more guys have someone else try the ring on most brides to be think.

Olivea12 · June 2010

I don't think it would bother me, but I also think I was much more of a relaxed bride. Little things that some people obsess over or think that are important were never a concern for me.

dvohnout · June 2010

What was the cirumstance? Was she trying to help the groom out by picking the ring or did she just try it on? Was she wearing it around?

Honestly, I feel like Meh, not a big deal.

Sloane99 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_xp-would-sloanei-saw-answerhehe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:8441bedb-4277-4082-9967-df7938b8781bPost:9b7fa5ba-6b54-4eb1-82f8-1a0815eb1abc">Re: XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe}</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't think it would bother me, but I also think I was much more of a relaxed bride. Little things that some people obsess over or think that are important were never a concern for me.
Posted by Olivea12[/QUOTE]

This is also one of the reasons I avoid my wedding month board. I'm sure most of them are very decent people but I simply can't get on board with worrying about the details that most of them seem to be obsessing over!

Olivea12 · June 2010

Sloane, me too! I posted on my month board once or twice, but then eventually gave up on it!

I started posting on the may 2010 anniverseray month board on the nest, but I am having trouble finding anything in common with anyone over there! They went from being wedding detail obsessed to baby obsessed!

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

Haha! Ok this was the situation.... Apparently the FI had the ring shipped to his parents house (He was at school) and when it was delivered he asked his sister to open it....She opened it and then apparently tried it on. My things was Meh? She probably should have left the story out of her speech but other than that no biggie IMO.

dvohnout · June 2010

I saw the other post stinker, and it reminded me about a time RIGHT after I was engaged when a girl I barely know asked if she could try on my ring. We were at a restaurant talking about the engagement and she just said, "Can I try on your ring?"

I was just in shock. I looked at her and she could tell I was uncomfortable. So she laughed it off, but I know if she would have tried it on if I was ok with it.

MNVegas · June 2010

Can't work up the energy to get upset about something this little. I mean it is not like the SIL wore it around for days. She tried it on, Agree SIL should have been a little more tactful about saying it in her speech.

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

See that D is WAY out of line.....I would not have EVER asked to try someone elses ring.

keana123 · June 2010

Oh geez. I could care less. I'm sure many of people have worn the ring before the bride. I wouldnt care.

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Can't work up the energy to get upset about something this little. I mean it is not like the SIL wore it around for days. She tried it on, Agree SIL should have been a little more tactful about saying it in her speech.
Posted by MNVegas[/QUOTE]
Well the Bride had a look of shock for a sec (prob just because of it being said in the speech) and seemed to move on. Now some of the older women in the group....did not. lol.

dvohnout · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_xp-would-sloanei-saw-answerhehe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:91Discussion:8441bedb-4277-4082-9967-df7938b8781bPost:963f04bc-8f0b-492f-a075-cf6faf9804b6">Re: XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe}</a>:
[QUOTE]Sloane, me too! I posted on my month board once or twice, but then eventually gave up on it! I<strong> started posting on the may 2010 anniverseray month board on the nest, but I am having trouble finding anything in common with anyone over there! They went from being wedding detail obsessed to baby obsessed!
Posted by Olivea12</strong>[/QUOTE]

This times 1000. I cannot stand all the baby talk or what is for dinner or how much weight they lost. It is ALL so much cliche housewife talk, and I can't stand it! Sorry a little rant :)

11Vegas7 · June 2010

I say no biggee....Unless she wore it around for days or something! I do agree she probably should have left it out of the speech though!

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe} : This times 1000. I cannot stand all the baby talk or what is for dinner or how much weight they lost. It is ALL so much <strong>cliche housewife talk</strong>, and I can't stand it! Sorry a little rant :)
Posted by dvohnout[/QUOTE]
I literally LOL at my desk D!!

dvohnout · June 2010

It is so true! Maybe that is why I stick around here. I can't deal with the nest or any other crazy brides. I just like you guys

vegasgroom · June 2010

Ah, yeah in that case kind of odd she brought it up during the speech but water under the bridge now; it will probably turn into a funny story to tell for years later.

mhoneybee · June 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe} : This times 1000. I cannot stand all the baby talk or what is for dinner or how much weight they lost. It is ALL so much cliche housewife talk, and I can't stand it! Sorry a little rant :)
Posted by dvohnout[/QUOTE]

Yeah I'm finding it hard connect over there too. Can't we create a Vegas wedding alumni board?

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_nevada-las-vegas_xp-would-sloanei-saw-answerhehe?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:91Discussion:8441bedb-4277-4082-9967-df7938b8781bPost:9fa0ea78-0e10-4fff-94f2-96f8c50dc9bc">Re: XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe}</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: XP: So would you {Sloane...I saw your answer...hehe} : Yeah I'm finding it hard connect over there too. Can't we create a Vegas wedding alumni board?
Posted by mhoneybee[/QUOTE]
I think this needs to be done ASAP!! {sorry brides to be...I still <3 you all but it would be nice}

mhoneybee · June 2010

Oh and to answer the question. I would think it would be weird is she was going around wearing it like it was hers but all other reasons, shopping, to see how it looks on the finer, etc seem reasonable to me. I'd be more horrified to learn it was someone elses ring first.

pebbs_17 · June 2010

Um.. I don't get along with my FSIL, so yes, I think I would have a problem with her wearing my ring before me. However, I have had people try on my ring and it didn't bother me.

2010VR · June 2010

I don't think that would bother me although it may not be the top choice of stories I'd want mentioned in a toast, lol ; - ) DH works with a lot of women and I know he showed my ring around the office the day he picked it up so I know a bunch of ladies saw it before me -- I don't think anyone tried it on though.

ebonyivory10 · June 2010

I'm with Keana, I couldn't care less. Yes, mentioning it in the speech was lame, but in the end I wouldn't give 2 shiits because after all she didn't get to keep the ring

Before I broke my engagement ring I had a lady ask me to try it on and I told her a flat out no, but in all fairness I wouldn't let anyone randomly try on any of my other jewelry either.

I also agree about posting on the wedding months and other boards. I can't seem to really connect with anyone like I do here. I like lurking over on E and SB but a lot of those chicks are way too much drama!

klmbbb · June 2010

Anyone have their FMIL ask to try on the ring?

stinkerbell6879 · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Anyone have their FMIL ask to try on the ring?
Posted by klmbbb[/QUOTE]
Humm....I have not heard that one. lol. did your FMIL?

dvohnout · June 2010

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[QUOTE]Anyone have their FMIL ask to try on the ring?
Posted by klmbbb[/QUOTE]
OMG if ur FMIL did this you may be the big winner!

klmbbb · June 2010

Yes indeed she did!
And I had only had the ring for maybe two weeks at the time. I was flabbergasted, but should have expected it from her (she has major boundary issues). I didn't want to say No since my relationship with her is awkward (due to her social stuntedness) so I deferred to FI, thinking he'd be on the same wavelength as me. Nope. So I reluctantly let her try it on and after that I thought that we might be jinxed (I am a tad superstitiuous at times). In hindsight it's a bit silly to think that. But I really wish she wouldn't have asked! Ugh.

cinegrad · June 2010

I would have to say yes, I'd be peeved, but that's more particular to the person rather than the act of someone else trying on my ring. For instance, if FMIL asked, I'd probably be rushing it off to help get it on her finger. But I don't have the same feelings for FSIL (for a number of reasons). But maybe I need to get my attitude right...I lost my engagement ring last summer and maybe it was my comeuppance for these latent hostile feelings.

PunkRockPrincess13 · June 2010

That is a really good question and I honestly think I could go either way!!

Her tone in the speech would be one thing. If it sounded like a snotty "i got to wear it first HAHA" kinda thing...I would beat her down *giggle* but if it was a casual funny kinda story than I would be like meh...

Also...do I like her?? If I already hate her, then we have issues... I am an only child and I dont quite understand a lot of cibling relationships but lucky for me Jason's sister is awesome ...so I dont think I would care either way if she had a say in the picking out of the ring or even if she wore it for a week! It ended up on my finger and thats all that matters ^_^

queenklm33 · June 2010

I think its an awkward speech, but not a huge issue.
After I finally got my ring, it was at the jewelers for months after I picked it out, several of my gf's asked to try it on. I didn't think twice about that. (they are all married anyway) but i would probably think it was weird if a complete stranger asked me.

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